Dr. Margaret Paul - Author, Counselor/Therapist, Marriage Educator, Relationship Coach, Sex Educator, Speaker/Presenter - Pacific Palisades, CA
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Dr. Margaret Paul (PhD)


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Phone 310-459-1700

Fax: 310-459-1727


Lying as a Form of Control

All of us, as we were growing up, learned a myriad of ways to try to have control over getting love, avoiding pain and feeling safe. One of the ways we might have learned is to lie. We all had many ...

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Relationships: Accepting The Challenge Or Accepting Loneliness

"I'm lonely and I want to be in a relationship, but relationships are too hard. I feel like I don't want to work that hard," Karen told me in a phone session. I replied, "Are you ready to fully accept the Read More

Is It Okay To Say No To Sex?

Adele wrote in asking the following question: "If I don't want sex with my partner, is that a form of control from me? Therefore, should I have sex ...

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Why Focusing On Fairness Won't Get You Far In Your Relationship

"Love has nothing to do with fairness. Love is Love." — Susan Page, Why Talking is Not Enough "It's not fair!" How often have you heard this from young or adolescent siblings? I grew up as an only ...

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Relationship Problems? Get Your Sex Drives In Sync

Michael and Sharon had been married for 12 years when Michael came to me in need of sex advice. They were experiencing sexual problems in their relationships, and he wasn't sure how to handle it.  "I seem to always want Read More

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Dr. Margaret Paul

Quick Stats

Main Specialty:

Anxiety Issues

Couples/Marital Issues




Time in Practice:

25 years +

I practice in:

All areas, please inquire

Additional Expertise:


Marriage Educator

Relationship Coach

Sex Educator


I offer my services:


Via Skype

I am fluent in:


Articles by Dr. Margaret Paul
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Lying as a Form of Control

Did you learn to lie as a child to protect yourself from rejection? Are you still doing this?


Relationships: Accepting The Challenge Or Accepting Loneliness

Is the fear of getting hurt keeping you from accepting the challenges of loving a partner?

Problems In The Bedroom

Is It Okay To Say No To Sex?

While the answer to the title question might seem simple, discover the subtleties within this idea.

Flirty Talk

Why Focusing On Fairness Won't Get You Far In Your Relationship

It's easy to see when something is unfair but focusing on this other feeling is more productive.

Sex Advice For Couples

Relationship Problems? Get Your Sex Drives In Sync

Do you and your partner have big differences in your sexual desires and needs?

Check Out My New Book
Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child
Inner bonding is the process of connecting our ...
By Margaret Paul
Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You? (Second Edition)
Newly updated by the authors, here is the ...
By Jordan Paul Ph.D., Margaret Paul Ph.D.
Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child
Healing Your Aloneness Workbook

Dr. Margaret Paul

All Specialties

Addiction, Anger Management, Anxiety Issues, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Depression, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Domestic Abuse, Eating & Food Issues, Empowering Women, Family Support, Health/Wellness, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, LGBT Issues (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender), Life Management, Life Transitions, Parenting, Personality Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress / Trauma, Postpartum Depression, Sexuality, Spiritual, Stepfamilies, Stress Management, Wellness