"What should I do if my partner won't go to counseling?"
I often hear this from my clients. What are they really saying with this question?
Generally, they are saying something like:
"My unhappiness is coming from my partner's behavior," or "The problems in our ...
“Squid is my word for people who seem to be missing their backbones but possess myriad sucking tentacles of emotional need.” —Martha Beck
Another phrase for ‘squid’ is ‘energy vampire.’
When your intent is to get love, rather than to be loving to yourself and ...
Wendy started counseling with me because Terence, her husband of 14 years, had just expressed to her that he wanted to end their relationship. Wendy, terrified of being alone, was panicked. Within a few minutes of speaking with her in a phone session, I understood exactly the underlying cause of their Read More
One of the questions that I have been asked over and over is, "How do I take care of myself
when someone is blaming me, or angry at me, or dumping on me? What can I do when people's energy is negative? Do I need to say something to them, stand up for ...
As a counselor, I often work with people who are unhappy in their relationship and thinking of leaving. They believe that they are unhappy because of their partner, but the real reason is that they are not taking responsibility for their own feelings
within the ...