It sounds crazy that an affair could actually strengthen a marriage. And yet, for those of us who work in therapy, what we see is that couples who do the work after an affair is disclosed often describe having a relationship that is even better than before. Impossible? Not really.
In American culture, ...
It is pretty common in my line of work to run across folks who simply think that they have married the wrong person. These people often describe themselves as being chosen rather than choosing.
Symptoms of being chosen rather than choosing include:
lack of desire
a feeling of ...
As a couples therapist, I talk about sex a lot throughout my day. How much sex is happening in relationships, what kind of sex is happening in relationship, what kind of sex is being fantasized about in relationships…but mostly what kind of sex is NOT happening in relationships.
Disclaimer: I am a ...
Recently I made a decision to begin driving to work with my cell phone...in the back seat.
Here is what I noticed (and in a moment, what it can teach you about your relationship):
the middle-aged man walking down Colfax wearing blue suede shoes. Really!
a young couple loving gazing at one ...
Almost 100 percent of couples who come in for therapy start out by saying, "We need help communicating." I listen for a while about the arguing, the distance between the two, and how they wish things were back to how they were in the first years of relationship. Often I ask what is happening in the ...