Dr. Erica Goodstone

Dr. Erica Goodstone (LMFT,LMHC,LPC,MA,MFT,NCC,Other,PhD)

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Did you know that men, not women, are more likely to be happy in a relationship if they are in good health, if they are often cuddling and kissing with their partner, and if their partner tends to have orgasms during sex? Cuddling, it turns out, may be even more important than Read More

Do You Believe Life Would Be Wonderful with the ‘Right’ Partner?

Many men and women find themselves searching for the “right” partner, the “one” perfect match for them, their “soul mate.” Yes, once in a while someone seems to wander the world alone and then appears to strikes gold when they meet that man or woman of their ...

Are Americans Deluded About Love and Sex?

Americans are brought up to believe in Fairy Tales. Princess meet Prince. They are kept apart by different trial and tribulations. But love eventually triumphs over evil. The Prince and Princess meet again, marry and go off into the sunset to live a happy, joyous and forever loving life. The reality, for ...

Female Sexual Dysfunction IS A Real Disorder

Female Sexual Disorder (FSD) has been discussed and debated among sexology professionals for many years. One such discussion focuses on the inherent differences between male and female sexuality ...

He Cheated - You Know - Now What Are You Going to Do?

He cheated. Now you know the truth. What are you going to do? All those little white lies and bigger and bigger lies he had been telling had you tied up in knots. You wanted so much to believe him, to trust ...

MY RECENT COMMENTS

Delaine, There is something not mentioned in your article about "perfect marriage." If we choose to marry a person we have fallen in love with, we feel those incredible feelings because they have connected us with a deep memory of some aspect of our early childhood caretaking experience. We tend to choose a partner who will help to trigger some early unmet needs and then, if we can stay connected, we just may be able to finally overcome some deep seated wound or insecurity. If we leave when the going gets tough, we may not have handled the issue that led to difficulties in the relationship. Then we may be prone to repeat those same dynamics in our next "love" relationship or else, we may choose to be with someone "safe" who we do not have that passionate feeling for. Couples who remain connected, regardless of how difficult some of the problems have been, can - with counseling and lots of authentic communication - create an enduring bond that is truly loving and tender, accepting and forgiving, and delightful. Yes, people can run from the pain of being intimately connected to someone who is behaving badly. But they may be running from one pain only to discover that the world out there is also extremely painful and dating may not bring the relief they were expecting.

Posted on: "Perfect" Married Couples: As Happy As We Think?

Dr. Diana, That was an amazing video. I have worked with so many couples that have transformed before my eyes but I have never captured their experiences on video. Bravo for you. What a gift to others you are providing with your books and videos and your strong, confident, reassuring pressence! Warmly, DrErica

Posted on: How To Get Back Your Ex [VIDEO]

Hi, As a therapist working with individuals and couples, I have certainly seen my share of Facebook friends creating problems in a relationship. But I'm not so sure it is good to arbitrarily eliminate all potential sources of conflict. Sure, an old flame can reappear and temporarily re-ignite some old passion, and some men and women will foolishly throw caution to the wind and abandon their current relationship. But many others will have an innocent flirtation, maybe even share it with their partner, and not allow it to progress from there. What about flirtations with real live co-workers and neighbors? I don't think it is possible or practical for someone who has an attraction and flirtation going with a coworker to instantly quit their job to save their marriage. Many flirtations last for awhile and then sizzle out. Sometimes that gives a person that bit of spark and good feeling that may be currently lacking at home due to financial, career, family, health and other stresses. Sometimes an online friend can offfer the understanding and comfort that keeps a man or woman in their marriage. It seems to depend on the agenda and needs of both parties.

Posted on: Your Facebook Friends Are Ruining Your Relationship

This is an inspiring post. Nice to see that there is hope for women in their 40's - and not just to be with men in their 60's or 70's, but men in their own age bracket who love them. We, as a society, need to see more of these tyes of relationships publicized instead of the stereotype of older men seeking 20 something, size 2, women.

Posted on: Celebrities Who Married In Their 40s

Debi, I imagine that many people ask you if you can teach them how to hypnotize their partner into loving them, as if you could just wave a magic wand and transform another person's lifelong internal modus operandi. Even though we are all quite similar in that we have emotions, we seek love, and we appear to want similar things from a beloved partner, we are all really quite different. Our desires and love responses are affected by those we meet but are triggered by what we have experienced in the past. Even if we could influence someone to "fall in love" with us now, if it is not based on a deep desire from within that person's psyche, in time that "hypnotic spell" would wear off. It is much better to be yourself, become the best "you" that you can be, and let the right partner discover the gold within you.

Posted on: Can You Hypnotize Someone To Love You?

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LMFT, LMHC, LPC, MA, MFT, NCC, Other, PhD

Time in Practice:

25 years +

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Multiple states/provinces, please inquire

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Counselor/Therapist

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Marriage and Family Therapist

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Expiration 3/31/13
Number MH 1738

Articles by Dr. Erica Goodstone

Cuddling Is For Men?

A new study shows that cuddling keeps men happy while women thrive on sexual satisfaction.

Do You Believe Life Would Be Wonderful with the ‘Right’ Partner?

Many men and women find themselves searching for the “right” partner, their "soul mate."

Are Americans Deluded About Love and Sex?

Many men and women enter marriage with their eyes wide shut. They often do not take a good hard look

Female Sexual Dysfunction IS A Real Disorder

Sexologists and other health care professionals have debated if female sexual dysfunction exists.

He Cheated - You Know - Now What Are You Going to Do?

What can a reasonable woman do once her beloved spouse has crossed the line of infidelity?

Dr. Erica Goodstone

All Specialties

Anger Management, Anxiety Issues, Chronic Pain/Disability or Illness, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Depression, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Eating & Food Issues, Grief, Loss, & Bereavement, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, LGBT Issues (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender), Life Management, Post Traumatic Stress / Trauma, Sexuality, Spiritual, Stress Management, Wellness, Other