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Dr. Erica Goodstone (LMFT,LMHC,LPC,MA,MFT,NCC,Other,PhD)

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Internet Pornography - Do You Know What to Do About It?

Internet Pornography makes it so easily accessible. In the old days, not that long ago, a person had to go to the "private" section of a magaznie or video store and discreetly check out the "sexy photos" or the "sexy videos." It required making a special trip to the ...

10 Things to Not Say on a First Date

On a first day, you approach a new person with either excitement and hope or apprehension and even fear. You want to make a good impression, you want this other person to like you and to "the one." Although we know a lot about another person in the first few seconds of seeing each ...

Can Your Relationship Survive After Cheating?

Did you know that 99% of men cheat in America — and the other 1% cheat overseas? That is a joke, of course, which highly overestimates the percentage of men that cheat. "It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some ...

You Found The One - But Will Your Loving Relationship Last?

So you have fallen in love and you believe you have found "the one." What you may not realize is that there are some unconscious forces at play. After many years of ...

My Wife Cheated - What's Wrong With Her?

Many of us imagine that cheating is only reserved for men. Even among liberal thinking men and women, many of us still hold that image in our minds. So when a woman is the cheater, we tend to have ...

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Delaine, There is something not mentioned in your article about "perfect marriage." If we choose to marry a person we have fallen in love with, we feel those incredible feelings because they have connected us with a deep memory of some aspect of our early childhood caretaking experience. We tend to choose a partner who will help to trigger some early unmet needs and then, if we can stay connected, we just may be able to finally overcome some deep seated wound or insecurity. If we leave when the going gets tough, we may not have handled the issue that led to difficulties in the relationship. Then we may be prone to repeat those same dynamics in our next "love" relationship or else, we may choose to be with someone "safe" who we do not have that passionate feeling for. Couples who remain connected, regardless of how difficult some of the problems have been, can - with counseling and lots of authentic communication - create an enduring bond that is truly loving and tender, accepting and forgiving, and delightful. Yes, people can run from the pain of being intimately connected to someone who is behaving badly. But they may be running from one pain only to discover that the world out there is also extremely painful and dating may not bring the relief they were expecting.

Posted on: "Perfect" Married Couples: As Happy As We Think?

Dr. Diana, That was an amazing video. I have worked with so many couples that have transformed before my eyes but I have never captured their experiences on video. Bravo for you. What a gift to others you are providing with your books and videos and your strong, confident, reassuring pressence! Warmly, DrErica

Posted on: How To Get Back Your Ex [VIDEO]

Hi, As a therapist working with individuals and couples, I have certainly seen my share of Facebook friends creating problems in a relationship. But I'm not so sure it is good to arbitrarily eliminate all potential sources of conflict. Sure, an old flame can reappear and temporarily re-ignite some old passion, and some men and women will foolishly throw caution to the wind and abandon their current relationship. But many others will have an innocent flirtation, maybe even share it with their partner, and not allow it to progress from there. What about flirtations with real live co-workers and neighbors? I don't think it is possible or practical for someone who has an attraction and flirtation going with a coworker to instantly quit their job to save their marriage. Many flirtations last for awhile and then sizzle out. Sometimes that gives a person that bit of spark and good feeling that may be currently lacking at home due to financial, career, family, health and other stresses. Sometimes an online friend can offfer the understanding and comfort that keeps a man or woman in their marriage. It seems to depend on the agenda and needs of both parties.

Posted on: Your Facebook Friends Are Ruining Your Relationship

This is an inspiring post. Nice to see that there is hope for women in their 40's - and not just to be with men in their 60's or 70's, but men in their own age bracket who love them. We, as a society, need to see more of these tyes of relationships publicized instead of the stereotype of older men seeking 20 something, size 2, women.

Posted on: Celebrities Who Married In Their 40s

Debi, I imagine that many people ask you if you can teach them how to hypnotize their partner into loving them, as if you could just wave a magic wand and transform another person's lifelong internal modus operandi. Even though we are all quite similar in that we have emotions, we seek love, and we appear to want similar things from a beloved partner, we are all really quite different. Our desires and love responses are affected by those we meet but are triggered by what we have experienced in the past. Even if we could influence someone to "fall in love" with us now, if it is not based on a deep desire from within that person's psyche, in time that "hypnotic spell" would wear off. It is much better to be yourself, become the best "you" that you can be, and let the right partner discover the gold within you.

Posted on: Can You Hypnotize Someone To Love You?

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LMFT, LMHC, LPC, MA, MFT, NCC, Other, PhD

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25 years +

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Articles by Dr. Erica Goodstone

Internet Pornography - Do You Know What to Do About It?

Internet pornography requires no emotional connection and is a problem for many relationships.

10 Things to Not Say on a First Date

A first date is an opportunity to get to know a new person. Share your best qualities first.

Can Your Relationship Survive After Cheating?

It is possible to save your relationship or marriage. How important is your relationship to you?

You Found The One - But Will Your Loving Relationship Last?

When you meet someone and "fall in love" you may not realize the unconscious forces at play.

My Wife Cheated - What's Wrong With Her?

Many of us imagine that only men cheat. When a woman is the cheater, we may have less tolerance

Dr. Erica Goodstone

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Anger Management, Anxiety Issues, Chronic Pain/Disability or Illness, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Depression, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Eating & Food Issues, Grief, Loss, & Bereavement, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, LGBT Issues (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender), Life Management, Post Traumatic Stress / Trauma, Sexuality, Spiritual, Stress Management, Wellness, Other