Denise Wade (PhD)
MY RECENT COMMENTS
Dr Gray is not telling women to act "needy", he's explaining what most men desire and that is to be needed.It's not his opinion it's been researched. Steph you are confusing being needed with a woman being needy.There's a huge difference. Needed comes from a soft feminine emotional place.Needy comes from an unhealthy desparation. Being needed solidifies his masculinity and penetrates his primal ancestoral needs to provide and protect. Both Dr Gray and myself have both done extensive research in Gender Dynamics. Steph it may not manifest itself in your case , but for 92% of heterosexual couples Gender Dynamics play a huge role in the balance and harmony between a man and a woman. Most men are intimidated and put off by aggressive women. If it were not true then explain to us all why there are thousands of women on this relationship site. Too aggressive or too needy. There has to be a healthy balance, either one scares the crap out of most men. Statistics by CNN show that 60% of men who get into a serious relationship with aggressive self sufficient woman are most likely to end up cheating.Why? They don't feel respected or admired or even needed.Some may not like this fact, but that is the ugly truth.
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AJellyPhish, I invite you to revisit this article.This article did not state that women should have all the domestic responsibility, it merely gave the "why" women have such a difficult time getting men to pitch in. Most women like to understand the "why". The suggestion was to negotiate with him using The Five Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman. Your rush to judge may cause some unnecesary conflict and friction in relationships.
Many men need a woman to help them connect to thier emotional side.But nature has wired them only to grasp detailed stories in short bits. So instead of communicating a heavy problem or conflict verbally, try putting it in writing, if it's going to be lengthy. He is interested in what you have to say, it's just he neds it verbally in small bits. And never from the point of anger, try communicating from the perspective of how happy or unhappy it makes you feel, including the degree of hurt or pain associated with the topic of discussion.
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