Amy Spencer, Author

Amy Spencer - Author, Life Coach, YourTango Expert Partner - Venice, CA
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"If you can't see a benefit in the present, know that you're giving a present to your future." —Bright Side Up: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now

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Can My Marriage Survive A Trial Separation?

Can My Marriage Survive A Trial Separation?

Let's face it. A married couple doesn't consider a trial separation until things have become pretty desperate on the homefront. Still, some time apart may offer the only hope a relationship has to survive. If you are considering taking a break from ...

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How To Remove Your Ex From Your Life & Your Closet

How To Remove Your Ex From Your Life & Your Closet

Breaking up is hard to do. Moving on is even harder, especially when your top dresser drawer is still full of his things. In this video, author, life coach, and YourTango Expert Amy Spencer offers some helpful advice about how to move on from a marriage ...

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When Should I "Break Up" With A Bad Friend?

When Should I "Break Up" With A Bad Friend?

Although you and your BFF have been friends for what seems like forever, you can't help but notice that she's been bringing you down lately. She's unsupportive of you and your life choices, unnecessarily mean or hurtful, and is no longer giving you the kind of friendship that you want. So, how do you ...

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How Do I Avoid Making The Same Mistakes In New Relationships?

How Do I Avoid Making The Same Mistakes In New Relationships?

After a breakup or divorce, it's exciting to think of starting a new relationship with a blank slate. The next person you date won't be aware of the mistakes you've made in the past. However, that doesn't mean these problems can't come up again. So, how do you ensure you don't repeat any ...

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How Do I Know I'm Ready To Start Dating After A Divorce?

How Do I Know I'm Ready To Start Dating After A Divorce?

After a breakup or divorce, you may take a time out from dating or starting a relationship with someone new in order to focus on yourself. A divorce is really stressful and the last thing you need in your life is more stress. But, when you're ready to get back into the dating scene, how do you know that your ...

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The Cranberry Bread Lesson

I was coaching Emma through her stalled dating situation. 39 and single, she wanted a husband and a family, but she was stuck as to what to do. She had filled out an online profile on JDate, but wasn’t into meeting anyone that way, and she was feeling negative about herself. She even wondered if she should move back to Italy where she once lived after college and felt great. I talked her off the ledge of any big leaps and let her off the hook. I explained, "If you don’t feel like online dating right now DON’T DO IT. Your negative energy is going to work against you." Dating is wonderful, but only if you're in a positive frame of mind about it, because the most important part of being the best single you can be is not about logging the dating numbers, but about feeling like your best self.

 

So, I walked Emma through the process of imagining how great she'd feel in the right relationship, and encouraged Emma to do something that made her happy, to feed her true, authentic self. So she went to the grocery store, bought ingredients for cranberry bread she’d wanted to make and had a great night baking it. Well, a few days later, Emma got an email from a man on JDate saying, “Hello from the neighborhood.” It turns out, he was behind her in line at the grocery store that day and recognized her picture! They went on a date, flew to Japan for their 40th birthdays six months later, and just got married a few months ago. That’s how to be a dating optimist: Feed your truest, happiest self, focus on how you want to FEEL in the right relationship, and let the glow you give out attract the right person to you. 

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Bright Side Up: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now

You don't need to reinvent your whole life to be happier-you just ...

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CredentialsOther
Time in Practice10 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseLife Coach
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesTelephone
By Email
Latest Expert Videos
My Store

Bright Side Up: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now

You don't need to reinvent your whole life to be happier-you just ...

USD $11.01

Buy online