I Believe

"If you can't see a benefit in the present, know that you're giving a present to your future." —Bright Side Up: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now

Amy Spencer is the author of the new book BRIGHT SIDE UP: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now (Perigee, February 2012) and MEETING YOUR HALF-ORANGE: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match (Running Press, 2010), which Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want called "a must-read for singles looking for love." She shares her powerfully positive views on life regularly on the TheLifeOptimist.com, and weekly, sends out a dose of "Vitamin Optimism," the happiest email you'll get all week (sign up on her homepage).

She also created the iPhone App Half-Orange Optimisms, which was featured on the iTunes "Featured Apps" and "Hot List," for positivity you can carry in your pocket. She has also written essays and happiness and lifestyle features for Glamour, Real Simple, CNN.com, InStyle, Health, Redbook, New York and other national magazines.

Read more about Amy at http://www.amyspencer.com.

About Amy Spencer

"If you can't see a benefit in the present, know that you're giving a present to your future." —Bright Side Up: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now (February, 2012)

Amy Spencer is the author of the new book BRIGHT SIDE UP: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now (Perigee, February 2012) and MEETING YOUR HALF-ORANGE: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match (Running Press, 2010), which Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want called "a must-read for singles looking for love." She shares her powerfully positive views on life regularly on the TheLifeOptimist.com, and weekly, sends out a dose of "Vitamin Optimism," the happiest email you'll get all week (sign up on her homepage).

She also created the iPhone App Half-Orange Optimisms, which was featured on the iTunes "Featured Apps" and "Hot List," for positivity you can carry in your pocket. She has written essays and happiness and lifestyle features for Glamour, Real Simple, CNN.com, InStyle, Health, Redbook, New York and other national magazines, and used to host a live call-in radio show on Sirius XM satellite radio.

Read more about Amy at www.amyspencer.com.

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Amy Spencer Success Stories

The Cranberry Bread Lesson

Single women

I was coaching Emma through her stalled dating situation. 39 and single, she wanted a husband and a family, but she was stuck as to what to do. She had filled out an online profile on JDate, but wasn’t into meeting anyone that way, and she was feeling negative about herself. She even wondered if she should move back to Italy where she once lived after college and felt great. I talked her off the ledge of any big leaps and let her off the hook. I explained, "If you don’t feel like online dating right now DON’T DO IT. Your negative energy is going to work against you." Dating is wonderful, but only if you're in a positive frame of mind about it, because the most important part of being the best single you can be is not about logging the dating numbers, but about feeling like your best self.more

 

So, I walked Emma through the process of imagining how great she'd feel in the right relationship, and encouraged Emma to do something that made her happy, to feed her true, authentic self. So she went to the grocery store, bought ingredients for cranberry bread she’d wanted to make and had a great night baking it. Well, a few days later, Emma got an email from a man on JDate saying, “Hello from the neighborhood.” It turns out, he was behind her in line at the grocery store that day and recognized her picture! They went on a date, flew to Japan for their 40th birthdays six months later, and just got married a few months ago. That’s how to be a dating optimist: Feed your truest, happiest self, focus on how you want to FEEL in the right relationship, and let the glow you give out attract the right person to you.