Do you have a "work husband" or "work wife" that you like to flirt with in the office? Are you worried that this attraction—however small—might border on overpowering your attraction to your own spouse? /node/82318
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As we grow up, there are many things about our parents that we hope we can inherit: maybe it's your dad's sense of humor and your mother's legs. On the other hand, there are also aspects of them that we hope to leave in their generation (that quick temper? No need to pass that down, thanks). Read More
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You love your husband, but you've found yourself straying from him... and you don't know how to stop. After several years of marriage, you can't stop feeling guilty for letting yourself become sexually involved with another man. Is there any way to repair the damage you've done to save ...
Harvey loves his wife of 15 years, Sandra, but somehow for ay least a year he had been avoiding sexual contact. His wife kept reaching out to him and he found himself making all sorts of excuses. Sometimes he would purposely stay at his office longer than needed so that he could get home late and complain that he had too much work to catch up on. At other times he would stay in his home office, glued to his computer, until he knew his wife had gone to bed. Sandra became increasingly upset, angry and then despondent. She was even toying with the idea of following up on a flirtation with someone she had met at the gym. Finally, she decided to seek outside help.
At first, it appeared as if this marriage had run its course and they would be headed for divorce. But after watching them together, I could see the emotional pain that each was experiencing and I had the sense they shared a true sense of love and compassion for each other. The problem was that Harvey had been afraid and embarrassed to tell his wife that something was not right with him physically. He was not waking up with erections and during the day he was rarely thinking about sex. Although he still found Sandra attractive, he had no apparent sexual desire - for her or for anyone else.
It actually took several sessions, seeing this couple together and then each one separately for their private history and individual bodymind healing session. When Harvey finally told Sandra what was really going on, the sense of relief in her entire body and demeanor was palpable. She was so relieved. That's when the healing began. Harvey scheduled appointments with both a urologist and an endorcrinologist, discovering that low testosterone was interfering with his sexual drive. Once his body chemistry improved and his sexual desire returned, I helped them sort through the many miscommunications and unexpressed emotions. Soon they were hugging and kissing and cuddling like newly weds. What a joy to watch them return to love.
Client was distraught about her recent discovery that her spouse had been unfaithful, but not just with one partner, with many. She feared that she may have contracted an STD. My goal was to help her regain a sense of her own well-being, to help her develop clarity about her situation, and to garner the strength to complete the divorce proceedings and move on without harboring resentment and emotional pain.
My unique method of somatic body psychotherapy, using the Rubenfeld Synergy Method of Talk and Touch along with Polarity and Craniosacral Therapy, assisted my client to feel and express her emotions, to acknowledge her deep hurt and intense fears, and to gradually feel and express the love that is in her heart for herself and also for her soon to be be ex-spouse.
John and Susan were childhood sweethearts, still loved each other deeply, but had fallen into a typical pattern of friendship and mutual caring without the spark of sexual desire and passion. John was seeking attention and contact with other women. Susan focused on caring for the children, working out at the local gym, and an occasional lunch date with a girlfriend to chat. Love is sometimes not enough to keep two people together when the passion and romance has dwindled. Fortunarly for Susan and John, they decided to do something about their current situation. In the first few sessions, as previously suppressed emotions came to the surface (anger, frustration, confusion, anxiety) the prognosis appeared almost hopeless. However, after that initial joint session, several individual sessions, and a few more joint sessions, the tone, the attitude changed. This couple, who had been sitting at opposite ends of the couch and looking away from each other, began to sit closer and closer, holding hands, smiling and obviously feeling that old sense of desire for each other. Both expressed how important it was for them to continue communicating, to set aside "dates" to enjoy being together, and to seek counseling again if they notice they are slipping back into living separate lives.