I BelieveMarriage or a committed relationship is an investment that always pays dividends, but only if you pay interest.
AboutCleveland’s leading relationship coach since 1992, Kathy Dawson works with couples and individuals to punch through the barriers that keep them from having a great relationship. Whether coaching spouses or significant others, Kathy teaches her clients concrete communication skills and works with them to create an action plan to insure their lifetime relationship lasts a lifetime. As an experienced coach, speaker, and author, Kathy has impacted thousands of lives through her books, as well as her national and local television and radio appearances. Kathy is the author of Diagnosis: Married – How to Deal with Marital Conflict, Heal Your Relationship, and Create a Rewarding and Fulfilling Marriage (Penguin Putnam/Perigee, 2000) which was nominated for a Books for a Better Life award. Kathy’s second book, Cleveland Couples – 40 Inspiring Stories of Love & Commitment (Gray & Company, Publishers) was published in 2004. Kathy's lastest book, 104 Dates In and Around Cleveland, is a downloadable ebook on her website. As well as books, Kathy has written a weekly relationship column called Side By Side for Cleveland’s Plain Dealer. Whether coaching couples and individuals, broadcasting relationship information on radio and television, or speaking in a business, civic, or university setting, Kathy is dedicated to promoting everlasting love!
It's Never Too Late
Robert, age 74, and Miriam, age 73, came to see me this year after being married 42 years. Robert had had an affair and was torn as to whether or not he wanted to leave his wife. Miriam was devastated. It wasn't until she discovered John was sleeping with another woman that she finally understood he had been miserable in their marriage for decades. He had tried to tell her for years how unhappy he had been, but she hadn't heard him ... until the affair. It took months of working with this couple, especially Miriam, to teach them to communicate from the deepest place in themselves in order to build the emotional, and eventually, sexual intimacy that had been missing for what seemed like forever. Miriam had been so focused on organizing Robert's sock and underwear drawers all those years that she never noticed Robert cared more about connecting with her than he did about a clean and orderly house. It took some time for Miriam to wake up. The affair, although painful to go through, was the catalyst for making their marriage better than it had ever been. This couple is now making love, traveling, and enjoying their retirement. More importantly - Robert has a sloppy sock and underwear drawer and loves it! Robert wrote this on his coaching evaluation form, "When I first called, it was to save my sanity, not the marriage. Your coaching saved both."
Off the Rocks
John and Donna (not real names) called me after hearing me co-host a weekly radio show in Cleveland, Ohio called "Relationship Thursdays." When they came to see me, they had filed for divorce - their court date was 4 months away. The John had been a workaholic and distant from his wife for two years. Having lived like roommates with little meaningful communication and rare moments of sexual intimacy, they were ready to call it quits. Coming to see me was their last ditch effort at saving their marriage. I told them what I always tell couples before they take steps to end the relationship, "Before you get divorced, make sure you are able put your head on your pillow each night with the peace of mind that you have exhausted all resources, and have done everything humanly possible to save your marriage." I also told them that the couples who succeed at working with me in coaching are the ones who stick their arms in the tool bag and use the 25 tools I provide for them. After two years of not knowing what the other person was really thinking, they each had a fair amount of trust issues. They embraced one of the first tools I gave them, the trust inventory, and they ran with it. After teaching them how to build an operating system for communicating, they used the skills they learned, to break open and talk about each item they listed on their trust inventories. They worked their tails off! Half way through the 3-month coaching process, they cancelled their divorce proceeding. It is December 18, 2009 and I just received a Christmas card from Donna and John, on the cover of which is their 2-month old daughter and a note saying, "You are the best thing to happen to our relationship! We went to you as our last hope before ending our marriage. You not only guided us through this terrible time, but helped us become stronger as a couple and as individuals."