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Nice guys finish last

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I have been on a few dates, and I always hear “you’re such a nice guy, but I only like you as a friend.” I thought women wanted nice guys instead of jerks? What do they mean by “nice?” How can I be a nice guy and still get past the first couple of dates? ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If you look up the word nice in the dictionary, some of the words you’ll find are pleasing, conventional, and agreeable. While there is nothing wrong with being nice, we generally don’t equate “nice guys” as being exciting, passionate, or strong- all more desirable qualities.

Can a long distance relationship work?

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I’ve recently started dating a great girl, and unfortunately she’s had to move out of the area for work. I have never been in a long distance relationship, and I’m wondering if you have any tips to help us make this work. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The main components of a successful long distance relationship are trust, communication, and guidelines. Most experts claim that long distance relationships are a bad idea, because a lot of people have trouble maintaining them due to the amount of work involved; long distance relationships are difficult, and require a strong commitment. However, by following a few rules, there’s a better chance of having a lasting, healthy relationship.

What makes a relationship last?

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I’m in my 40s and have been in several long-term relationships. For some reason, I can’t make it past the five-year mark and I’m wondering if you have any helpful insight? ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I always tell my clients that there are a few major components of healthy, long-term relationships, and they are respect, sense of humor, and sex. These are closely followed by self-esteem, and kindness. As we explore each one, hopefully you will notice where any of these aspects have been lacking in your relationships.

Are you too eager?

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I am in a vicious dating cycle. The scenario is the same. I will meet a guy, we will talk back and forth for a few days, where he seems excited and interested in a relationship. We will go out on a first date. Then he does something that makes me question if he has lost interest/or that he doesn't like me. Maybe he doesn't call one day after sleeping with me, or he doesn't send as many texts as before, or when I threaten to break up or stop talking to him it doesn't seem to bother him. Basically, something will happen, that makes me question his desire for me. Then I blow up. I get angry. Then the guy will respond that he doesn't think it will work. Instead of apologizing or trying to be understanding, they will have their minds made up over one instance of me getting upset and threaten for me to never call them again or they will get a restraining order on me. I am so confused. Why am I not meeting men who work for my affection? Who prove themselves?

Make time for each other

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Hi Patti, I have been dating this guy for about 9 months. Things were going good until about 3 months ago when he got involved into this big project at work. It ties up almost all of his time. I have no reason to think he is lying about it. But my issue is that we never spend any quality time together anymore. We talk on the phone almost every night but that is not enough for me. And when he does come over he only stays for an hour. I am not asking 24/7. But I feel like I have to make an appointment to see my boyfriend and when I do its a rushed appointment. If he does not have time for me know, what will it be like later? I do not want to break up just yet. How do I make sure he understands this is not good enough for me without sounding too much like a diva? -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------