Pop quiz! Answer TRUE or FALSE:
1. I often find myself attracted to "bad boys," "jerks" and "players."
2. I spend a lot of my time trying to make my boyfriend happy.
3. If I am upset about something in my relationship, I often dismiss my feelings to avoid a conflict.
4. The men I date tend to be bossy and controlling, and get angry when I don't do what they want me to do.
5. I apologize even when I know I'm not at fault.
6. If my boyfriend is mad at me, I can't think about anything else until we resolve the argument.
7. I love how great it feels to make up after a fight, like I have a fresh start to be a better girlfriend.
8. My boyfriend and I have a cyclical relationship: things are going well, then out of the blue he gets angry at me, I apologize and do everything in my power to make it up to him, then we make up, and the cycle starts all over again.
Dating dry spells.
Lousy blind dates.
Saturday nights alone with your TiVo.
Being the only unattached woman at your friends' "couple-y" dinner party.
Sometimes, being single feels anything but fabulous. (I've been there. Trust me.)
But before you go getting down on yourself, you'll really want to read this article. It's all about the power of positive thinking and how keeping your attitude upbeat can actually attract love into your life just like a magnet!
Here’s a letter from a reader who's feeling down and more than a little bit skeptical, along with my reply explaining exactly how she can turn her life around by doing ONE SIMPLE THING.
READER COMMENT OF THE WEEK: "Some Women Don't Deserve Love"
Do you really believe every lady out here deserves healthy love?
There are plenty of needy, whiny, controlling women who I don't believe deserve to be in a loving relationship.
Recently, Jennifer Aniston’s latest rom-com “The Switch” (about a 40-something single woman who gets pregnant via artificial insemination) opened in 8th place at the box office to a disappointing 8.4 million. Surprising numbers, given the fact that anytime Aniston’s face graces a magazine cover – whether fashion or tabloid – copies fly off the shelves. The general consensus seems to be that the roles she plays too closely mirror her actual life, and that people are actually far more interested in her off-screen romances (or lack thereof).
So why is it that we’re so consumed with who Jennifer’s dating or getting dumped by? What makes our celeb-obsessed society set their watches to the ticking of her biological clock?
You could be your own worst enemy when it comes to finding and keeping love. Single, married or in relationship, Christine Arylo & Amy Ahlers, co-founders of Inner Mean Girl Reform School, help all women find the Inner Mean Girl inside that may be keeping love at arms length.
Both men and women have made finding their Soul Mate more of a job and task than the enjoyment that God has designed for this to be. Individuals have made finding their Soul Mate a rigorous and painstaking effort when it's really so easy to do.
When you are in relationship and the other partner is having some sort of a serious issue, what sucks is both partners are suffering from that serious issue. Both partners feel the effects of the depression. Both partners have to deal with the results of the drinking. Both partners are trying to manage the anger. To say that “we have a problem” is 100% right on the mark. However, to say that “we need to deal with it”, well, not so much, at least not in the way you probably think.