I coach a lot of people who are in a state of dissatisfaction with something in their lives. Their marriages are not what they used to be, their jobs are not what they expected, their kids are not behaving with respect, and they wonder what it would be like to live a completely different life.
Uncertainty. It's like a black hole that can swallow you alive. It's probably one of the most prominent challenges that I help my coaching clients deal with on a regular basis. It causes more worry, anxiety, and self-doubt than any other concern I have come across. It creates frustration and paralysis. It can take someone from bold and confident to neurotic and scared. I've seen it over and over and while the circumstances are always unique, the symptoms are the same:
Are you ever ugly? I don't mean ugly looking. I don't mean having one of those days when it's not in your best interests to be seen publically. I don't mean wearing ugly clothes or being born with ugly toes. I mean do you ever catch yourself thinking thoughts or feeling feelings that cause you to behave in an ugly manner? Let's define ugly for a minute...
Although it's been more than three years since the assault that landed her in the hospital, Rihanna sat teary-eyed on "Oprah's Next Chapter," telling Oprah that she still feels "protective" of Chris Brown. Crying over him, Rihanna admitted, "I still love him." Many of us have been in unhealthy relationships far longer than we should have been. Sadly, it is too easy to fall back into the addiction you two share: each other.
Whether you have to work, want to work or fall somewhere in-between, a recent study by the American Psychological Association revealed that full-time working mothers are happier and healthier than their non-working counterparts. Perhaps it's time to let go of the working mom's guilt and instead focus on the many benefits working full-time brings to a mother and her family. Here are seven ways full-time work benefits mothers.
As a clinical sexologist and relationship coach I counsel couples in marriage who are having difficulty with having a fulfilling sex life. Most of my clients will have invested years in marriage counseling already or come to the point in the marriage where they know a change must be made. When couples allow their sex lives in marriage to become boring, not important or sexless, the couple now becomes roommates rather than share in a marriage.
continued from part 1 Excessive calls to his place of employment What are you trying to do? Get him fired? Now your man cannot pay his phone bill or even his rent, because you assisted in getting him fired. Now he must move in with you because you overextended yourself with phone calls to his job.
If you are someone who occasionally lies, you know where your line is. You know when you feel it’s OK to tell a lie, and when you feel you must be truthful. But here's the problem: No one else will ever know where you draw that line. If you lie about even the littlest thing, your spouse or significant other will wonder about everything you say. You will never be able to articulate to your partner how you come to the decision to lie. And just as important, you will never be able to justify it.
As a smart professional woman, your career success depends on masculine traits (i.e. being driven, assertive, strong, in charge, controlling, etc.). When a woman is competitive with a man, he may admire and respect her in the corporate world. But when it comes to love, a man isn’t looking for a woman to be a better man than he is. Masculine traits applied to love keep you from experiencing a meaningful connection with a masculine man.
"Is there a break up in your past that was hard to get over?" "No, I'm fine. I make it a point to never have regrets and I just put them behind me." said the beautiful still-single-at-40 attorney sharply. I could tell she was a little annoyed. "I see." I said. "How many breakups are behind you?" "Six, but what does that have to do with my Love Magnet." "Let me show you," I said to her gently. (Want to peek over my shoulder and listen in?)