Dr. Romance writes: Have you noticed that nagging, whining, complaining, sternly directing, yelling, criticizing and freaking out don’t seem to get you what you want from a partner, family member, friend, colleague or child? In a previous article, “Asking for What You Want” I explained how to ask cleanly and directly for what you want, and that being direct has a better success rate.
Relationship Coaching Institute announces the launch of “Let’s Get Real,” a weekly webTV program that promises to “make relationships cool” by challenging the status quo and telling the truth about relationships- no simplistic advice or pie-in-the-sky theories, just a frank, adult discussion about love, sex, and relationships in the real world for the YouTube generation.
Definition of "Pure Love"- an over abundance of self-love that spontaneously flows out to others and continues to effortlessly replenish itself. How is Pure Love Expressed? Pure Love can only be expressed through Love that has no filters and needs nothing in return. If love is expressed through fear, jealousy, scarcity or any type of need or expectation, it is not the true essence of love. It is a mere shadow of what it is meant to be. Pure Love can only be expressed through a clear channel.
My sorority sisters say my problem is that I keep dating candy bars when what I really need is an apple. Their advice makes perfect sense. A candy bar looks so good when you first see it, and I crave it with passion, but whenever I have it, I end up feeling sick.
The kind of love that characterizes what we feel when we fall in love is not empowering love; it’s not unconditional; indeed, it is based failingly on need and powerlessness. Just think of the familiar colloquial phrases to describe this feeling of falling in love: “Falling head over heals”; “Being swept away”; “I’m crazy about you.” All of them indicate a state of ungroundedness, as if a force has taken us away from our sanity.
Question I’m dating a woman who’s really great, except for the fact that she’s constantly questioning me whenever we spend any time apart. To give you an example, when I go out with friends, she has to know where I’m going, when I’m going to be back, and exactly who else will be there. One time, when I was out with friends, she even surprised me by just showing up with her own friends!
Question I have a great boyfriend, who is smart, funny, and cute. We get along really well, except for one problem - his job involves a lot of travel and there are times when he is on the road for months. I find his absences difficult to deal with (although when he returns, we seem to be fine again).
There is so much to teach your children. For starters, say "please" and "thank you," wash your hands, respect your elders, chew with your mouth closed. Meanwhile, advertisers spend millions trying to teach our kids to "spend more!"
Opinions are like noses - everyone has one. And often, those noses are stuck smack dab in the middle of our personal lives that it makes it difficult to cipher through the good, the bad and the plain insane pieces of advice. When it comes to dating, those around us may think they know what's best for us because they either saw us come out of a bad relationship or think someone would be a good match. The good intenders weigh in on the type of profession he should work in or the number of children he should/shouldn't have or even his former marital status.
Unfortunately, the gay dating pool is viciously competitive. So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men.