Happy New Year! I know you’ve had plenty of people tell you about goal setting, so I am not going to bore you with how to set goals or resolutions today. Today, I am telling you another true story. A client of mine, we’ll call her Jane, called me the other day with a burning question for me, and it took on an interesting twist. She started off by telling me about a guy friend of hers that she had worked with in the past. Steve, as we’ll call him, lives in another city. They talk via phone every now and then and text frequently.
Now is the best time of the year to get back online or revamp your online dating strategy. Statistics suggest that the time between Christmas and Valentine’s Day is when online activity increases dramatically. People are looking for love in the chilly winter months (especially in the upper half of the US) when they are stuck inside between these two holidays. That is why I have been recommending to my clients they get back online or consider revising their current online dating strategy ASAP!
16 years ago- just 2 days before Christmas, I found myself on a morphine drip in a hospital bed. The surgery was planned. What was a surprise was waking to find my husband looking down on me, announcing that we were getting a divorce. Suddenly, without my permission or input, my life changed horribly. I felt completely victimized by change… by the losses beyond my control. I was broken hearted, simpy powerless, and it felt like my influence over my own life and the lives of my children had ceased to exist.
How would you describe your relationship right now? Is it... Okay Has its ups and downs Fireworks, but of the wrong kind Snooze-fest kind of boring Sure, it’s common for a love relationship or marriage to go through spurts of passionate connection and then lulls of distance and dullness. The trick is to not let the lulls take over.
What does it mean to lovingly disengage from conflict? How do you keep your heart open and lovingly disengage when someone close to you is saying things about you that aren't true, or saying things about others that aren't true, or saying things about themselves or about life that aren't true? How do you lovingly disengage when someone close to you is blaming you, complaining, withdrawing from you, resisting you or attacking you?
It's impossible to date in the 21st century without, at some point, dating someone who’s divorced. Fortunately, most divorced singles have as many pros as they do cons. However, when it comes to dating divorced men, some are more ready to date than others. If you meet a cute divorced guy, be on the lookout for the following Red Flags: Red Flag #1: His Divorce is Recent
Have you settled for companionship in your would-be romantic relationship? Companionship is when you exist in the same home but spend very little time together, and neither of you is particularly satisfied.
(A conversation during a coaching session) Me: Tom, how are things going with Nancy? Tom: Well…not that great actually. Me: What do you mean? Last time we talked you were all excited about dating her. Tom: I know. But things have changed. She’s blown me off.
I heard a great story years ago about a kid whose mom asked him to make her some eggs. She instructed him to scramble one and fry the other. He, being a “good egg” and of course wanting to please his mother, did just that. He stood and beamed proudly before his mother, presenting her with what he understood to be the answer to her heart’s (or stomach’s, if you will) desire; eggs, one scrambled, the other perfectly fried! “Oh. NO!” she protested.
Meeting an older, richer man and marrying him for his money is purely opportunistic ... according to some. Others have a different view. They believe that love is love at any age and in any tax bracket.