Recently, Gene Simmons and Shannon Tweed attended our “Marriage BootCamp California” which will be featured as part of their “Gene Simmons Family Jewels” reality show. Marriage Help Centers partnered in a “Private Couples Retreat” in Orange County, which is run quarterly, for those who are seeking a more private and intimate setting. Gene Simmons & Shannon Tweed worked hard and participated 110% in our intensive and experiential games and drills. They had an amazing experience, got very real, and shortly afterwards, they got married!
I want to thank all of the men who trusted me in their “brokenness.” At no other time did they voice such weakness; at no other time was my perception of their strength so real. Their stories inspired this article and hopefully will go on to help others.-MJR
"Why do men so often change after sex?" asked Shelley in our first phone session. "Tell me what you mean by this. What has been your experience?" I asked her. "I meet a guy who I like. We are very attracted to each other - lots of great chemistry. It doesn't take long before he is pushing for sex, and I want to have sex too. But most of the time I don't hear from him again after having sex.
In my early 20’s I took a two year hiatus from college because I was confused and unclear about my career direction. Plus, I was not inspired with what I had learned up to that point. In those days, college was cheap and I could afford to switch majors and add an extra year. Not so today! My fall-back position was to use the clerical skills my high school counselor insisted I develop because I was, well, a girl, and one who did not excel in math or science.
I recently joined a number of career-related Linked In groups to stay on top of what is current in our field, and to interact with like-minded folks. What a great resource! I would highly recommend that if you have an interest in just about anything, you find a Linked In group to connect with. I digress. One of the topics that come up over and over in the groups I peruse is that we Career Professionals are poor communicators when it comes to educating the public about our VITAL service. Why this is, I’m not sure.
This article is written for women and anyone who loves/interacts with women. If you read my article about your "Love Stories," you know that I spend a lot of time teaching people to uncover their often unconscious beliefs formed in childhood about how they see themselves. A very common one I've been working with on women lately is "I am bad." I have male clients with the same issue, but I think there is a different kind of pressure on girls to be good than there is on boys. There's often a subtle acceptance of 'bad boys' because of the notion that 'boys will be boys.'
I have been in practice long enough to see many couples and families develop over the the past thirty years. While there are countless stories over a full range of of topics, one that greatly interests me involves divorce. Many couples and individuals have come to counseling after divorcing fifteen, twenty or twenty five years earlier. Most are quite happy in their current lives and marriages. Many, however, have looked back on their previous marriage with one very powerful observation: Their original divorce did not need to happen!
Society in general has given us the myth that the number one reason people get married is to have sex. Granted that is part of the equation, but it actually isn't the number one motivating factor. The number one reason people get married...drum roll please...is because they have fun together! It almost sounds to simple to really be true, but true it is. Now let's look at the deeper issue involved in having fun. Having fun creates the emotion of "joy" in the brain. The "joy emotion" is the one emotion that re-sets our em
It seems like everyone is talking about female libido these days. Apparently there is a rumor going around that a lot of women have low sexual desire or low libido. I have to be honest: I am not sold on this latest "epidemic." The women I work with in my sensuality and intimacy coaching practice really don't have low sexual desire. What they really are struggling with is what I would call "desire untapped." Now that is language I can wrap my libido around ... because that's what I once was — a woman who didn't understand my own sexual desire. I knew that I had it, but it felt more like a simmering pot — close to boil, but not quite. And I wanted to boil, as so many of us do. I wanted to feel like those women look in Sex And The City, but I wasn't them. I would never be them. I was a mid-life Riverdale housewife and a fertility advocate. I had to find my own way, and I did. But along the way I learned a lot about how women tick.
What if fear no longer stopped you from your dreams? What is it that you really want right now? Not from your head or your ego, or what you think you should have to make you happy. Go deeper. To the place where real dreams, dreams worth having and dreams that actually have the power to manifest in reality come from. Go in to your heart. Who already knows exactly what dream is raising its hand screaming, “Ooh! Ooh! Pick me!!”