Studies show that high self-esteem is the #1 ingredient essential for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and overall success in life. In the life of every child, usually sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the child doubt him or herself. Someone says or does something that has the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy, imperfect.
Women constantly push really good guys right out of their lives without even knowing it. We do it by behaving in ways that, until pointed out by someone else, are a complete mystery. Finally, having this pointed out to me in my early 40s was a huge part of my transition from a pretty happy single gal to, at age 47, a truly fulfilled wife of a loving and adoring man.
The most power we have during a conflict is to notice when we’re triggered. Look for physical cues, sensations in your body, your tell-tale signs. As soon as you notice the tightness in your jaw or the heaviness in your chest, walk away. An argument is not what the conversation is about as much as the strong emotional reaction that happens when you’re triggered, and one of the keys to conflict resolution is to try not to engage when you're triggered!
Several years ago I wrote a piece titled 'The Dog Days of Summer.' I didn't really know what that term meant or where it came from. I imagined it meant something about dogs and how hot they got on the hottest days of the year, which led them to seek shade and rest under the nearest tree. After doing a little research I discovered this idiom was referring to a constellation that occurred during the time period between July 3 and August 11. Not at all what I had thought - and a little disappointing!
Kind of a funny concept isn't it! Even I, the author of the above title, must admit, yet it makes me happy to note. I just made it up today as I was Noticing how much joy I get from simply Noticing things, without thoughts of judgment or action mucking up the works. We humans spend much of our time NOT Noticing much of anything. We take in the tasks of the day without noticing what they mean to us. We interact with the people in our lives without noticing who they really are. We partake of entertainment, at times without truly experiencing the moment.
A woman can love a man till death, but if that physical passion combined with mental stimulation, is missing, then she may unknowingly feel unfulfilled until she meets another man who has the passion she never knew she needed.
It happens to everyone. You’re sailing along smoothly in a meaningful relationship and then next thing you know, you find yourself single. Sometimes it’s expected, sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s your choice. Sometimes it’s not. Whatever the reason, you’ve recently found yourself single. Now what?
We all have moments when we procrastinate at work. Mars Venus believes, we typically procrastinate when we are stressed out and need to re-energize; we’re a little anxious as we’re figuring out the day’s priorities; or we have a few minutes to kill say before a meeting, between a project and lunch, waiting to talk to a co-worker or it’s almost time to go home. Procrastination and complacency are two blocks any of us can fall prey.
There are literally hundreds, if not hundreds of thousands of ways we can behave that could be considered loving. Yet, it is from where the gesture comes from that distinguishes the loving act from the empty gesture. If your goal is to display your love or affection genuinely, here are my five suggestions.
Women really over estimate who we are. Let me explain. The other day I saw this woman. She grabbed her kid and she said, “God, I miss you so much and I love you!” and just kept kissing the kid. I noticed that she had no ring on her finger. So I started talking to her and I said, “You know, that is so beautiful the way you are with your kid.” “Thank you.” “Single mom?” “Yes.”