Most people are not conscious of when they are operating from their ego wounded self – the part of them that wants to control. They generally don't know they are being needy, demanding, blaming, attacking, guilting, and so on. And, they often don't remember what they said and did while operating from their wounded self. Therefore, trying to talk about a difficult or painful situation after the fact generally doesn't get anywhere, or leads to even more conflict.
What happens to your sex life after the honeymoon's over? Did you ever wonder why long term relationships can sometimes lead to boring sex? And why do we need advice from therapists and sexologists (like me) to spice things up?
Today let’s talk about why publishing a book helps you help others. Many people do a variety of things to help others. Some work professionally as teachers, trainers, consultants and coaches. Others work in the healthcare field. Some work in a non-profit organization. Others volunteer, and still others find ways to support their local communities in some meaningful way. Everyone wants to make a difference somehow some way.
It’s Oscar time, and the fine films that were nominated and won featured some fine actors, great writing, directing, and totally love life-killing movies. Wait. What? Listen, we’re experts in helping women find the love of their lives, so our job is to find anything and everything that might be standing in the way of that happening, for real. It’s the same stuff that stands on the way of your current relationship from developing further. How do the fine films featured at this week’s Hollywood red carpet extravaganza fit into that?
Did you know that according to Patrick Carnes, Sex Addiction Expert, he reports that relapse happens for most individuals who struggle with sex addiction in the second six months of recovery? Most individuals gain traction in recovery through counseling, support groups and establishing strong boundaries. It is very important that individuals who struggle with sex addiction stay proactive in their recovery and the journey to having healthy and satisfying relationships. These are three effective ways to avoid relapse in a
Whitney Houston was idealized by so many for her incredible talent. Then she became a drug addict and we still loved her. Why? What is it about Whitney that drew us to her and mesmerized us? Family was the most important thing in Whitney's life per her first vowel in her first name. She blamed all of her mishaps on family and simultaneously gave kudos to her family for the good that happened. Family consumed her time and attention. Then the letter next to her family letter states that she took this to the extreme.
No matter how many tips David got from his friends, he was rarely successful in his efforts to flirt with women at bars, clubs, and parties. It made him wonder whether there was something wrong with him or if it was just not meant to be!
by Rodney Mueller On an unseasonably warm day in February, I went out for a short scooter ride around my neighborhood. Yeah, I said scooter! Don't judge me, it's actually really cool. Avocado green, all metal, 60's looking, manual transmission 150cc Vespa. Think Volkswagen Party Bus meets scooter. Ok, fine, I may be a dork, but my wife and I have a blast riding it, thinking we are hippies in Italy, and that's all that matters.
The Kennedy Years: The Way It Really Was As I have written in Huffington Post ("In Defense of Camelot") a recent book by Mimi Alford, "Once Upon a Secret: My Affair with President John F. Kennedy and its Aftermath” has left me unsettled and questioning. I fail to see why this kind of description, years after Mimi Alford spent time at the White House, is necessary or what it contributes, especially when President Kennedy is dead and cannot comment.
There must be something so irresistible about a married man because so many women fall for them. In just one week, I have encountered two women who have slipped into the trap of fatal attraction for a married man. It is a dangerous territory and I do not recommend that anyone go there. I speak from experience having invested part of my life in a relationship with a married man. I am not writing about this subject to lecture or be judgmental or even to speak from my soapbox about what I know that you don’t. My intention is to expose the underhanded tactics, even if unintentional, of men and the naiveté of women that permit these relationships to flower.