When we hear someone upset or complain, or when someone comes to us with a problem, it's easy, and actually pretty common for us to want to fix the problem for that person. We don’t want to see that person suffering. But in reality, more often than not we actually end up doing the person a disservice by coming from this focus of wanting to fix their problems for them.
Being single during the month of December can pose challenges that you don't have to think about at other times of the year. People who are newly single may struggle as they try to figure out what to do when there isn't a built-in place to go for the holidays.
Studies show that when a woman is feeling good about herself then that sexy energy will radiate out to others around her. Feeling sexy comes from within. Being happy with whom you are and knowing that you are the sexy wife that your husband has dreamt of is the best gift of all. This holiday give yourself a sexy make-over then wrap yourself in a bow and present yourself as the gift. This is sure to not only delight him for the holiday but all year long. Each woman is different in what makes her feel sexy and how to get her mind into it.
Several of my dating coaching clients have contacted me this week feeling crummy about online dating. They are tired of the emailing and the men disappearing. They are bored with guys who don’t follow through or ask for a second date. As a dating coach for women in midlife, I totally understand how disheartening it can be. I myself went through this at 40 to find the man who became my adorable husband of 12 years now.
Let’s admit it. For as exciting and fun as first dates can be, when it comes down to it, it’s hard not to feel nervous and a bit self-conscience before one. With so many unknowns lying ahead (what will we talk about? will he/she be into me? will I be into him/her?), your levels of self-confidence can easily take a nose dive if you’re not careful. This is a problem because, without a doubt, the single most attractive thing in a potential partner is some well-placed confidence.
Dear Coach Steph, I was dating this guy for 6 months, and everything was going great. But, we never said that we were exclusive, so, I started seeing someone else. Anyway, now I am confused. I still like the first guy more, but he found out that I was seeing someone and we had a big fight. I told him that I didn’t care what he thought about me seeing the other guy…but I lied. I really wanted him to say that he wanted to be with me, but I was too scared to say that,
Working out together as a couple is the best! You’re both doing what you enjoy, releasing endorphins, getting healthy, what could be better?!…Let me answer that- going home and having sex! YES. I have talked to so many clients and universally it seems men are a yes and women are a no – most of the time? Why? Well it’s simple, women are too caught up in not feeling sexy enough and worrying about their smell.
Is your relationship compass off? Do you find yourself attracting the wrong type of guy over and over again? If this sounds familiar, then your relationship compass might be in need of a calibration. Just as a compass points North due to the internal magnet that aligns itself to the natural magnetic field of the earth, your relationship compass works off of magnetic attraction – and I know you know what I mean here. You are just magnetically drawn to him – the way he looks at you, the way he talks, the way he moves.
They say there’s a shot for everything these days…literally! What lengths would you go to increase pleasure? Well now women (sorry guys – you just get Viagra for now) can get a shot to increase the sensitivity of their Grafenberg Spot, affectionately known as the G-Spot. I checked out the website and to my surprise there are quite a few doctors over the nation as well as other countries who can provide this shot!
Before you can fall in love with someone else, you need to fall in love with yourself. Only then will you be capable of loving someone else. Your willingness to look deeply and honestly at yourself is the key to unlocking the door to your own heart. The depth of the conversation you have with yourself will determine how deeply you will come to know and love yourself. This is a journey of the self and by the self. No one can do it for you.