Whether you support women students at Georgetown University who are calling to receive contraceptives under their private health insurance or not, I think it's clear that Sandra Fluke has remained graceful throughout a barrage of attack from Rush Limbaugh and a number of other prominent political commentators. Although Sandra was initially shocked and stunned at the language being used about her, there are six skills she reveals that may have helped her stay steady under pressure.
You’ve come a long way, baby! Seventy-eight million of us baby boomers who grew up in United States during the 1970s remember this slogan as an iconographic hallmark from the feminist movement, an unofficial benchmark signifying that women were emancipated and free (if you considered smoking and wearing pants the epitome of freedom). And while it might make us feel good forty years later to think we’ve come a long way, baby, thank you, Rush Limbaugh, I can’t say with any real confidence that we have.
My husband's birthday was the day after Valentine's Day, so the week before his birthday, when he came to me with a big grin on his face pointing to a magazine telling me, "This is what I want," I paid attention.
Words like "slut," "prostitute" and "whore" carry a powerful punch when directed toward a person with a female body. Calling into question a woman's sexual integrity can make her a "legitimate" target for all manner of punishment and "justify" persecution, ostracizing, rape, so called "honor" killings and other forms of brutality and murder. It is no wonder these words arouse anger and evoke terror.
Ladies: when you see a man that you’re attracted to, what do you do? Do you have a plan for how to deal with men that you’re attracted to? When you’re out and about, do you have a method for getting men to approach you? I coach women all the time and I’ve discovered that most women have no idea what to do about men that they’re attracted to. Whether you have a plan or not, allow me to share a few tips. Here’s what you don’t do:
Are you excited about the notion of hopping into bed with your new guy? Slowly undressing, eyes locked, savoring each others bodies...lust so intense that you both might explode? Or does the thought of it make you so nervous you want to puke? For many of you—especially if you're dating in your 40's, 50's, or beyond—it's been a while since you stood naked in front of a man.
Recently in the news, a woman speaks out for contraceptives and conservatives began to go stir crazy! Rush Limbaugh went way too far this time calling Sandra Fluke, a 30 year old law student and an advocate for female rights, a slut, whore and feminazi because she's spoke out on behalf of females everywhere for contraception.
If you’ve been following the news, you’ve heard of Sandra Fluke, the Georgetown law student who testified before Democratic members of the House of Representatives on why she believed free contraception is essential. She got a beat down of a lashing from Rush Limbaugh who called her a slut and compared her to a prostitute. Rush sent out a public apology after his rant caused him to lose several sponsors for his radio show. This story represents on a large scale the deep wound of shame that so many feel when they speak up. Shame is the feeling that “something is wrong with me.” Shame pops up in three main areas for women: in speaking up and using our voice, in feeling comfortable with our bodies and our sensuality and in the way we mother and raise our children.
Steering clear of "pot calling kettle black," I want to make sure that I simply make a candid observation. "Slinging derogatory comments at someone proves you’re more of an ass with each passing moment you open your mouth.” Now that I’ve got that out of my system, let’s talk about Mr. Rush Limbaugh and his use of the word slut, which he lobbed with vile ease at Sandra Fluke just a few days ago.
I can’t tell you how to live your life or what to think, but I can share with you what I have learned and what has helped me in my life. I am a sex therapist. I consider myself to be predominantly hetero-sexual, but I am open to whatever feeling possess me on any given day because I also believe that sexuality is fluid, in that in changes and that our sexuality lay on a continuum, with hetero-sexuality being on one extreme, and homo-sexuality being on the opposite extreme. Most people fall somewhere in between.