I don’t know who Rose Franken was, but she said the quote above and I wholeheartedly agree! One of my happiest memories from years ago is the time my boyfriend and I decided to put aside the argument we were having, hop in the car, and drive ninety minutes to Santa Barbara, where we spent the afternoon beside the Pacific Ocean on tandem bikes we'd rented, stopping only to gobble down drumstick ice-creams, hot-dogs, and pause when we were laughing so hard we could no longer pedal.
What are the most important ingredients to create healthy and happy relationships? They are the same ingredients that will allow you benefit in all areas of your life. The great benefit is that when you make the effort to cultivate these 3 qualities you will attract a man who will reflect them back to you.
Q: My spouse and I often have arguments over the “small stuff.” How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering? A: I’ll bet neither of you would argue with your boss or work colleagues, or your children’s teachers the way you argue with each other. You have choices—you don’t have to argue with each other. Instead of acting like bickering children, use your grownup self-control to pull yourself out of the argument.
If you agreed to one or more of these surrogate markers for being stuck on your ex, chances are pretty good that you have not gotten over the divorce or breakup. Thankfully, getting unstuck starts with the awareness that you are stuck. Once recognized, becoming unstuck is simply a matter of developing a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA).
If you ask almost any overweight person, "Do you really want to lose weight?" the answer is likely, "Yes, I would love to lose weight." Most overweight and obese people want so much to lose weight that they spend billions a year trying, so why is our country growing fatter? Why aren't people losing weight when they say that this is what they want to do?
I recently read a horror story of a woman who met a man on a dating site. He seemed perfect for her in every way. Within a few months she didn't know if she was coming or going and the man had stripped her of money, personal information and dignity. How could this have happened?
The fact of the matter is, it’s ok to feel bad after a break up. Especially if you have been together for a long time. You have shared everything from checking accounts to the same tastes in DVR recordings. You have to allow yourself time to heal. Whatever reason the break up occurred , whether it was one sided or not, you are left with half an empty closet where before you didn’t have enough space for your “too many shoes.” That extra set of dishes you kept in
In the time since becoming a therapist, I have yet to have one client ask me where I received my master's degree, or where I did my training, or a word about my licenses. What clients want to know is, "Can you help me? Can you offer me anything at all that will bring me some relief from the pain I'm in?" Some also have other questions they may or may not be as likely to articulate, questions such as "Are you going to judge and reject me if you know the 'real' me? Are you going to understand me?