I realize I am constantly writing about relationships, and helping people in my work develop the skills so they can develop, build, and maintain their relationships. Sometimes friendships and relationships don't work, fall apart or simply drift away. This too is a part of life, and something I see in my work and also write about; breakups, divorce, keeping the marriage together, maintaining friendships and familial relationships. Everything seems to pertain to some aspect of relationships. Either, keeping them together, or learning to live apart.
Couples argue about the budget for one reason and one reason only: the budget doesn’t work. You already know your budget doesn’t work. What you don’t know is why. Challenge: Why your budget doesn’t work Most couples leave little to no wiggle room in the budget for unexpected expenses. Can you think of a single week of your life where everything went as planned? No. So why would you create a budget that is unable to accommodate real life?
Are you in a relationship in your personal or professional life with someone who is constantly and consistently critical? No matter what you do there’s always an element of something wrong with it? Bullies come in all shapes and forms and are very prevalent at home, in families, and in the workplace. They often leave us speechless and feeling helpless. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
How many times have you found yourself in conversations where someone brings up their painful past? It's the broken record that comes up again and again and all the apologies in the world never seem to make it go away. So why do people do this? And more importantly, what can be done to put the past to rest? Here's what's going on. When a person brings up the past, there is something they want or need in the present. It's evidence of what they need right now. It's a here-and-now problem, not a past problem. That is why apologizing doesn't work.
A friend asked me recently about his attraction to a woman he knows is in a committed relationship. He thought it wouldn't hurt him to fantasize about her since he doesn't have any other prospects. He also admits he doesn't feel so good about himself since he is (like the rest of us) getting older and feeling like he might not be attractive to women. And he thinks that the women he finds attractive wouldn't be interested in him. So I wrote him a few thoughts which I thought I'd share here for others:
When I learned he cheated, I thought I was doomed to a lifelong sentence of victimhood. To my surprise, less than two years later, I no longer feel like a victim, I feel like a survivor. Now, I want to show you how you can be a survivor, too!
When was the last time you felt confident? Today? Yesterday? Can you even remember? There is a confidence crisis among women these days, especially in the workplace. And, of course, we all know that what happens at work affects the rest of our lives. Still, women are lacking the confidence to speak up, put forward their two cents, or be acknowledged for a job well done. Does this sound familiar to you? At first the idea seemed foreign to me. Then, I started reflecting on the women in my life and realized that yes, in fact, nearly all of my conversations among friends and associates carry within them the undercurrent of lacking the self-assurance to boldly live their lives. Who knew?!
How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - how much of your thinking time is spent on what to say to your partner to get him or her to be the way you want him or her to be? Many of us spend a lot of time thinking about how to get what we want from our partner - how to get our partner to open up, be more caring, see us, love us, pay attention to us, spend time with us, have sex with us, and so on.
Are you tired of riding the rollercoaster of love? Is your love life a constant dance of two steps forward two steps back? Well, when it comes to men, dating and relationships, you are not alone. In fact, there are over 50 million single women looking for love and like you many of them are frequent riders on this crazy ride. Unfortunately most of these women are tired of the constant up and downs and would love to get off the rollercoaster once and for all.
By Johanna Lyman, Love Coach for GalTime There are lots of good reasons to get married, but I heard what has to be the all time worst reason the other day. A couple had been living together for seven years and she wanted the relationship to “move forward.” She didn’t think it was enough to live together; she wanted to get married. He didn’t want to get married, but he caved.