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How Do You Know You're Keeping Your Love Alive?

How Do You Know You're Keeping Your Love Alive?

How do You Know You’re Keeping Your Love Alive? In her thought provoking article in the December 1 New York Times, Sonja Lyubomirsky, a University of California Professor of Psychology, makes the wise and researched observation that the thrill of new love fades after about two years.

Are You Drawn To The Fixer-Upper?

Are You Drawn To The Fixer-Upper?

Do you find yourself very often inexplicably drawn to a project guy – a guy with some serious personal problems, emotional, financial, or physical, that you think you can help? Maybe it's the guy that just can't seem to hold a job, or the guy who drinks too much or has drug dependencies. The end result is that you typically find yourself in a relationship where you are caretaking for a partner, and feeling responsible for his wellbeing in one or more areas of his life. You may even be enabling his dependencies without even realizing it.

How To show Him You're Interested

How To show Him You're Interested

Based on emails I have received from women, It seems like a lot of women already know a guy they want to date, but they don’t know how to get things moving. OR they are waiting for the guy to get things moving. These dating tips for women are designed to help get the ball rolling.

Are You Chemically Addicted To Your Past Love?

Are You Chemically Addicted To Your Past Love?

Out with the Old, and In with the New!  If you’re ending a relationship, it is best to stop looking backward over your shoulder (like Lots wife, you may turn to salt!); and instead face forward.  Get off the ruminative obsessive maze of churning the same regretful thoughts over in your mind. Face new challenges and experiences.  A future orientation makes neurochemical sense:  Ending a romantic relationship, brain studies show, is like ending a cocaine addiction! We get depressed from  dopamine depletion in an un-tickled withdrawing brain reward system.

Are you feeling alone in your relationship?

Are you feeling alone in your relationship?

Loneliness has become an increasing problem in our relationships today.  In fact, if you are living in a marriage without receiving love or being able to express heartfelt thoughts and feelings, you struggle to have a meaningful relationship.  Heartache and loneliness results from disappointment of not having your dreams fulfilled by the most important people in your life. Everyone yearns and desires in a relationship:  to be loved, accepted, respected, and appreciated by another person.

The Perfect Christmas Gift Idea For The One You Love.

The Perfect Christmas Gift Idea For The One You Love.

This Christmas gift idea is guaranteed to win you warm (and maybe even wild) hugs and kisses on Christmas morning! Cut different sizes of hearts out of pretty pink paper.  On each heart, write one reason why you love him/her. Go wild and do as many hearts as you can.  Be as daring and/or as loving as you wish. Spritz each heart with your favourite Sexual Perfume or Cologne.  Wrap it in a gold box with a big bow. Watch him/her melt as he/she opens your gift Christmas morning. 

Giving To Others: Draining Or Fulfilling?

Giving To Others: Draining Or Fulfilling?

Giving to others can be one of the most fulfilling experiences in life, or it can be one of the most draining. What makes the difference? The difference has to do with WHY you are giving to others. Giving From A Full Heart When we give from a full heart, we are giving because we are so filled up with love that it is overflowing, and we receive great joy in giving to others.

Why Are You Single?

Why Are You Single?

This article was originally written and featured at MUSED Magazine Online. Why are you single? A simple but effective question that all singles ask when they jump into the dating process. As Chicago’s resident gay matchmaker, I make it point to ask all of my clients why they feel that they are single, because it gives me an idea as to whether or not they are even ready to pursue a relationship.  

Connecting With Old Flame, More Than You Bargained For

Connecting With Old Flame, More Than You Bargained For

When we get upset or frustrated with our husbands or significant other, everything negative seems to be exaggerated.  It is like looking in a mirror as a teenager. Every pimple shows and we are sure our complexion is ruined forever.  Of course it wasn't and probably a little over the counter medicine from the drugstore helped when we were kids.  But the same thing happens as we face the realities of our day to day relationship.  Everything that isn't all sweetness and roses can appear terrible.