A trauma bond is characterized by betrayal that is so purposeful and self-serving it moves to the realm of trauma. Trauma bonds create chains of trust that link a person to someone who is exploitive,dangerous, abusive and or toxic. A person in a trauma bond feels very confused about their relationship, yet they are unable to break free from it. Here are some characteristics of a Trauma Bond Relationship: 1) Relationship is manipulative and exploitive 2) Agreements are ill-defined, unclear and tentative 3) Feelings are anxious and intense
The average American will gain some weight over the holiday season. While we may hate this fact, consider the even worse news: most people don't lose it after January 1. If your weight has crept up over the years, then it may not be your age that's at fault. Just living through these weeks, year after year, can do the trick. So, not gaining weight during the holiday season is truly its own worthy goal.
John doesn't know what to believe anymore. He has actually become used to his girlfriend's threats to break up with him. It seems like every time they have an argument or she gets irritated with him, she declares that she's going to end their relationship and that she's “done.” This is upsetting for John to hear and the first 4 or 5 times she threatened to break up with him, he did everything he could to calm her down and make everything okay between them again.
“YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME!” Have you ever felt as if you're talking to a brick wall and you want to (or do) scream these words at your partner? It can be infuriating to have asked your partner to do something and then he or she not only fails to do what you've asked, it's as if you hadn't made the request at all. Your partner might look at you standing there, angry and red-faced, and insist that you didn't say that.
Kim has come to loathe the internet. Because she's in her late 30s, she can remember a time when the world didn't revolve around the computer. She can remember a time when dating was more straight-forward than it is now. When she was a teenager and even in her early 20s, social networking was not an issue. Unlike today. When Kim's husband gets home from work, it seems like he rushes directly to the computer. He stops for dinner, but then is back online.
by Avnish Sabharwal for 21st Century Man http://www.facebook.com/pages/21st-Century-Man/123049324441970 Feel your feelings. This was a great practice that a Success Coach gave me and it can make a huge difference in being with all of yourself, which in turn lets you be more of you in relationship with folks.
With the assorted private groups on Facebook, I started thinking about the ways we can still have privacy on the web, or if I’m just dreaming. If I post in one of the private groups I belong to, no one is supposed to see that post except the people in the group, but can I tag someone in a photo or video who isn’t part of the group. Then they see that post, right? Not so private, if that’s doable.
It's 2pm on Thanksgiving Day, you're in the kitchen, stressed-out, covered in gravy, feeling tremendous pressure to get a large dead bird out of the oven at exactly the right time, cursing the day when you told your friends and family you would host this holiday, while everybody else in your home is in the next room watching football and relaxing.
So much of the holidays can be taken up with the busy stuff of gift buying, travel plans, and food and festivity preparations that we’re often left exhausted and depleted. It’s easy to forget what the holidays are fundamentally about: to connect and be with family, friends and loved ones. This holiday, offer the gift of your presence to both yourself and your loved ones.
If you've been dealing with infidelity for a few months now and heard the words, "You need to get over it." I'm here to tell you NO, you DO NOT need to get over it. You need to DEAL with infidelity for as long as you need to deal with it.