How often have you asked a question of or made a statement to a partner, co-worker, friend or relative at a time when you already knew they are angry or withdrawn? Then, when they are predictably angry, closed or defensive, you feel upset by their response. Why did you put yourself in the line of fire? What are you hoping to gain by asking a question or making a statement when you already know they are closed?
In my clinical experience, I've encountered many clients who are afraid to admit they’re wrong. This comes from a culture of blaming and accusing—where one's early family may have picked a “culprit” when something went wrong, and focused on blame, rather than on fixing the problem and healing the hurt. People with such experiences approach every situation as if they're on trial, and they compulsively try to convince everyone they're not guilty. They have no patterns to follow for apology and forgiveness.
Jealousy is one of the things that can cause major rifts in a relationship. I call it the Relationship Killer. Are you the one in the relationship that tends to get jealous? Is your partner jealous of you? Do you both display jealousy at different points in your relationship? Would you like to understand it better and know what to do? Causes of Jealousy: 1. Insecurity
Ancient religions believe that we choose our own names, which would explain why they have an immense affect on our lives. This is illustrated in the Bible when one of the first things God did was to change Sarai’s name to Sarah, and Abram’s name to Abraham. Interestingly, both new names now have an ‘AH’ in them which they did not have previously.
We’ve all read articles or heard about the supposedly great places to meet men – places like the gym, the supermarket, the dog park, and of course the age old meeting place, the bar. In my dating days, if I saw one of these lists with something on there I hadn’t tried yet I immediately made plans to try it the next chance I got.
When you think about going out to meet people for the purpose of dating, are you doing so in a haphazard way or are being strategic about the process? This past month I have had many coaching conversations about how people are putting themselves out into their communities to meet people for dating. What I notice is many people utilizing a haphazard approach to meeting people. Let me explain what that means.
My first awareness of the impact that habits have on our enjoyment, success and experience in life came when I read the best selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. I have to admit, I read that book with a combination of hope and doubt about my own ability to rise to such a disciplined way of life. BORING was my biggest fear, right ahead of having to see that I was not destined for the kind of success that the author spoke of.
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