There’s a myth perpetrated in TV and Film that says we can't help who we fall in love with, that it just happens. Do you believe it? Have you ever said this to yourself about a relationship? I’ve heard these words from new clients, especially the ones who are in relationships with inappropriate men.
If you had no doubts before, surely after the Manti Te'o fiasco you are taking a hard look at your online relationships. Let me say that I'm no online prude. I have clients I work with who I've never met offline. I've had virtual assistants I've never even spoken with on the phone. I've done online dating and talked to high school boyfriends online.
In 1961, author Robert A. Heinlein coined the term "grok" in his best-selling book, "Stranger in a Strange Land". The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok as "to understand intuitively or by empathy; to establish rapport with" and "to empathize or communicate sympathetically (with)."
Mary Kay Beckman found someone she was interested in dating. After going on a handful of dates with Wade Ridley, she decided that he wasn't a suitable companion. Unfortunately, this did not go over well with Mr. Ridley, and he began harassing and threatening Ms. Beckman through text messages. Circumstances escalated and one night when she arrived at her home in Las Vegas, Mr. Ridley viciously attacked her and almost killed her.
It's easy to admire Katy Perry's stunning beauty and over-the-top talent, but you may want to think twice about following her example when it comes to men.
Have you ever walked by a mirror, caught a glimpse of your reflection and thought, 'Yikes?!'
As you read this I am moving into my new place, which is AMAZING. I have been waiting for this day for at least 3 years and am especially excited because I’m moving into a building that I’ve dreamed about living in for years. I am so grateful to be ALIVE and empowered to create a life that I absolutely love. It wasn’t always like this though; I used to be stuck and afraid. One excuse I used to use frequently to stop me was wondering what others thought of me, aka judgment.
Most women know you have to dress to impress. When it comes to grabbing a man's attention, you have to look the part. Some women mistakenly assume that the best way to attract attention is by wearing plunging necklines, short skirts and long boots. Of course, don't forget lots of makeup and overdone hair but if you talk to these women about their love lives you'll, not surprisingly, find that they are not attracting the right attention and often times attract men who are interested in only brief, non-committed relationships. Why is this? Because this type of "sexy" attire is sending the wrong impression.
Are you among the 38% who made New Year's Resolutions to take better care of their bodies? If so, you're not alone. But while almost 50% of us make resolutions in January, 25% of all Resolvers don't make it past Week One (per Betterment.com). Why is it so easy to take care of our boyfriends, galpals and loved ones but so hard to take care of ourselves? Perhaps because few of us actually treat ourselves like our own best friends -- which we are!
Is being too busy affecting your relationships? It is for my friend Amy. She calls herself lazy as she is always running behind her infinitely long list of to-do's. Even when she is sitting down after a long day she feels guilty that she is supposed to do something useful (like folding the laundry while watching TV). She says sorry a zillion times as she frequently cancels our coffee chats at the last moment.