We are all in touch with some of the downsides of Christmas holidays—spending money, others’ expectations, travel hassles, relatives we may prefer not to hang out with, and the ending of the year with its accomplishments and intentions, met or unmet. I’m convinced that if you follow these 7 practices, you’ll look back with delight on this December.
While all of the cheer and good will can be exciting, the holiday season can certainly be stressful, too. Between the exhausting schedule of holiday parties and the confusion of gift-giving etiquette, December festivities can feel like quite a burden. Add to that a new relationship, and you can easily find yourself screaming “BAH HUMBUG” instead of humming along to “It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year.”
As a marriage counselor with a private practice in Westminster, Colorado I get a lot of calls from people looking for marriage counseling. As you can imagine, I get a lot of unique stories from people shopping around for a marriage counselor. I got one call from a woman about a year ago that I can still remember. She called and asked me if I “fix spouses”. I didn’t quite understand the question. It sort of sounded like a trap. “What do you mean by do I fix spouses” I asked.
The holidays bring up a lot of mixed emotions in many people. Falling in love during the holiday is a wonderful experience because the "holiday cheer" is intensified as you're looking at the world through rose colored goggles. But if you're dealing with heartache due to a breakup or relationship strife, the holidays can be excruciatingly tough for you. Here are four answers to your holiday questions and worries that will help you make this time of the year more bearable for you.
Often referred to as the Festival of Lights, Chanukah celebrates the miracle of lamp oil lasting eight days when it was only enough for one. But how does this apply to your love life?
Congrats on your pregnancy, New Dad! Now, we’ve got to talk about the upcoming birth. Gone are the days where men are given the pass to wait outside in the hallway and wait for the cries of your baby as mom sweats, pushes and grunts for hours surrounded by doctors or doulas. Dad, this is your time to shine!
There is a magical room in your home. In this room people learn, grow, speak, listen, think, make choices, accomplish, laugh, cry, prepare, clean, play... and, oh yes, eat. It is your kitchen and it is a space where people and relationships can blossom and thrive. How many of you are enjoying the magic that occurs here?
When we are going through the end of a relationship and contemplating separation or divorce, it's easy to relate to the winter darkness. It feels like walking through a long, dark tunnel. There are only occasional rays of light and they don't seem to last long enough. At times, we may believe that we will never find our way through.
The traditions, the families, the expectations, the disappointments. If you are facing your first (or second, or … ) holiday season after a separation or divorce, all of these challenges get magnified — and the joy can often seem elusive.
As soon as a girl hits puberty, people start warning her of the dangers of lecherous men–if not her parents, then the media and various well-meaning mentors. The subjects of these warnings run the spectrum from garden-variety “bad boys” to creepy, relentless stalkers. Most likely, women will have some exposure to the former and hopefully little to no experience with the latter. Fortunately, by our 20s, we realize that most men do not fall into these categories and our choice to withhold our personal info is not always based on our personal safety alone.