Emotional affairs (EAs) are sneaky and it is common to find out you are in one without really understanding when and how it happened. Face book, instant messaging, texting, and tweeting have opened doors for emotional affairs to storm in and have also built the walls necessary to keep it secret. These are two of the absolutes for an emotional affair to exist. EAs begin innocently enough. They take place at work, school, happy hours, and coffee hours, almost anywhere whenever two lonely people can meet up one on one and talk.
We don't always get to choose the circumstances of our lives. Sometimes shit happens. When you go through experiences of chronic illness, caregiving or loss you can't help but be changed by them. They break you or they reveal to you inner strength you did not know you had. I love having a plan. I do well with setting goals and working toward them. I've got a pretty high degree of self-discipline and focus. But when life shook my world upside down all I could do was choose to make the most of it.
This is one of the most common questions my clients ask me. There may be as many different answers as there are people asking but I find that many fit into these three categories: 1. To see ourselves differently. Some people convince themselves that they are a reflection of the person they are with. They may have a belief that says, “If my partner is attractive or successful, then I feel attractive or successful”. But there are a couple of problems with this belief.
I can answer this in three words: You’re not memorable. That’s it. Whether it’s the hot man you had a nice chat with at the local coffee shop or the guy you had a great first date with, getting him to ask you out can take some skill. Yep, I said skill. You’re not 18 anymore, and the men you are interested in (or should be) are mature men of depth. They have busy lives (like you) and would probably rather be single than in a bad relationship (like you).
Do you know anyone whose marriage has been affected by an extramarital affair? If you asked this question to any group of adults, what percentage do you think would say yes? It’s a fact of life in the modern world. Surveys differ as to the exact percentage, but Bill Harley, author of His Needs, Her Needs, is on target when he states that 60% of American marriages are affected by an extramarital affair sometime in the course of the marriage.
You just started dating. It is going hot and heavy. And heavenly. But there is a little nagging worry in the back of your mind. Is this person truly just into me, or what I bring to the table? Whether it is your apartment, your lifestyle, your family’s money or your own that may be stoking your newbie’s interest, you feel like you need to know. Does this person truly like me for me???
Ever wonder how to find the ever elusive Mr. or Ms. Right? Wanting deperately to ensure that you don't choose the wrong one, you are sometimes too cautious and at other times may have thrown caution to the wind. Here's a key: Start looking inside first. "What?!", you ask, " How do I find something outside of me on the inside of me?" The Law of Attraction, that invisible, magnetic force that brings people together works on a number of levels. All of the levels involve karmic ties. Some relationshi
If you want a sweet love, and feel it doesn’t exist take heart because it does. You do not have to settle for less than what you want. In fact, 2011 can be the year you find yourself head-over-heels in love! To get from here to there, take a look at some of the beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors that often get in the way.
Bully behavior begins in childhood. Kids watch their parents and siblings and learn those behaviors. If they learn bullying behaviors they will mimic them. Some of them learn the error of their ways and change. They may ask forgiveness or become compassionate to those they hurt or offended. Some of them don’t learn, and they keep growing into adult bullies. These adult bullies have relationships and marry unsuspecting people. They can wear a mask and act normal, but when they are stressed or dissatisfied they show their bully mindset.
Just like every successful business and organization needs a road map to stay on track, everyone can greatly benefit from creating a Strategic Plan for Love. Many of us only focus on the direction of our relationships when something goes wrong. This year, be proactive and sit down and get clear about how you want your love life to be.