Sometimes a coaching series can feel like cleaning out our life's closet: out with the old, keep what still works, and make room for the new. Quite literally, one's self image can also change in the process and the closet does need a cleanout! That old frumpy dress won't match with the new confident and inspired you, or the weight loss puts a whole new world of wardrobe opportunities at your fingertips.
As parents, we are in a role of teaching our children so many things to help them prepare for adulthood. It is an important job, a difficult job and a very rewarding one. Our primary goal to to ensure that our children enter adulthood with sufficient skills in the areas of education, relationships, emotions and basic life skills so that they need to navigate successfully, both professionally and personally.family in sunset
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi This is a wonderful quote to think about when you are in a relationship or seeking one. Often, in my work with couples, I have found that the tension and negative cycle that they get stuck in are really about their underlying feelings - their hurt, shame, or sadness when needs for attachment are not being met and/or when fears about abandonment and loss of the other arise.
One of my female clients, who desires to get married and have a family, has been dating her current boyfriend for at least six months. She is 37 and he is 42. Both have never been married before. In our last coaching session she said, “When I was s.ingle….” as if she were referring to a life long past. That phrase made the hair in the back of my neck stand up! What I had to remind her was that, “technically, you are still single!” According to her tax returns she is single and especially according to her parents and family members she is still s.ingle!
When we take the 1550s English Proverb “practice makes perfect” to heart, we put unnecessary pressure and unrealistic expectations on ourselves. It can also keep us locked into our comfort zones and afraid of trying something different for fear of failing. Love relationships give us vast opportunities to practice communicating openly, expressing ourselves, allowing our partner to be and do what’s best for them, being open to how our relationship unfolds, etc.
Let's begin with a personal story. I'm in the healthiest relationship of my life, with the most amazing guy who treats me like gold. I love everything about him, but it hasn't always been like this. I, ever so sweetly of course, love to remind him of our first online date, when we'd had such a wonderful time and connected on so many levels, and he promised he'd call...said he couldn't wait to see me again, yada yada.
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If these are the reasons you're not online dating, it's time to get over them.
Our entire wedding day and the week leading up to it went surprisingly smoothly — even with a house full family dynamics event details to sort out. Of course, there were a few minor glitches, but nothing was going to break my stride as I joyously walked down the aisle to marry the man of my dreams. The day after our amazing wedding, I came home and completely fell apart.
I believe that the beloved is the experience of a safe rhythm of understanding and unconditional love between two hearts. In this place there is no judgment or expectations. The intention of love and peace, woven with respect creates a safe place for each other to become all that they are.