Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Psychotherapist, Consultant, Speaker, Professional Trainer/Author Author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us Emotional Manipulators, Codependents and Dysfunctional Relationships
Unlike for alcohol or drug addiction, there is no formal diagnosis for sex addiction in the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic Statistic Manual (DSM IV). According to Chester Schmidt, chair of the DSM-IV Sexual Disorder Work Group, there is "no scientific data to support a concept of sexual behavior that can be considered addictive." Schmidt believed that what is called sex addiction is more likely a symptom of other psychological problems like depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or bipolar disorder.
One very harsh reality for many recovering addicts is that they have to learn that they cannot please everyone. Another key reality to face is that what works for your friend, your family member or even your spouse may not work for you. In my book, "The Law of Sobriety" I talk about a client I worked with by the name of Tanya. Tanya wanted to return to school to earn a degree, but she had a lot of fears. She knew there were advantages to graduating and she took on the task despite her concerns.
Should it be reserved for one particular union, that of a man and women, or should it be open to people that are lovingly committed to forming a union regardless of their gender? It seems in reality that the answer to this question is based on what you see as the value of marriage. Values are typically one of the most difficult issues to change, negotiate or compromise on because they are our essence, our foundation and our belief in the working of the world around us.
I never thought I would have to be afraid of telling someone I am interested in what I do for a living. Being a relationship, sex coach, and writer I would think would be a great thing for men since they think about it all day long. But apparently if I write about my relationships, mind you I am not using names, it becomes a huge issue.
There was only one time that I felt compelled to do a little recon work on a man who had shown interest in me. We had met online. He replied to a profile I had posted to a then popular dating site. He was 25. I was 38. What did he want with me? That's the question I believe compels most women to go down the Google rabbit hole.
When it comes to online dating, your photos really make a difference. You'd be surprised how easily you can sabotage your results with a poor choice of pictures. Some of the most innocent errors can become huge mistakes when you are looking for love online.