Ever thought about what a relationship “should” be… what a self-loving, self-respecting person is entitled to in a healthy relationship? Of course you have! I’ve addressed this in various dimensions in lots of other posts but I thought it would be fun to draft a general Relationship Bill of Rights. Mine can serve as a guide for you to begin one of your own, based on your particular experiences and ideals. In my opinion, you are born with the inalienable right to a relationship that:
By Christian Carter Author of best-selling eBook Catch Him & Keep Him and free newsletter I’m going to tell you something that’s going to save you a ton of time – especially the hours you spend dissecting a man’s behavior. When a man doesn’t call once you’ve connected in a deeper way, there are only three possible reasons why:
There is an old story out of Jewish lore about a couple imprisoned in a tower by an evil ruler. The man and his wife are chained by the ankles in the top of the tower, a small circular dungeon, with a pot of soup between them. They are each given a spoon the size of a boat oar, impossible to use in such a small space. They proceed to argue about the best way to survive, and the fight escalates. He pokes her trying to do it his way, she clubs him trying to do it hers. No one is listening.
Have you ever thought about why do humans have pubic hair? What is its purpose? It seems no one (at least under 30) is letting his or her bush sprout. Instead everyone is talking about what to do with their pubes. Should I shave them? Dye them? Trim them down to a runway strip? Experts aren’t exactly sure why we have pubic hair, but there are a few theories which seem to make a lot of sense.
Do you ever wonder what men initially notice about you? About women in general? As a Dating, Relationship, & Image Coach, I talk to tons of singles about the criteria that they are looking for in a match. I often ask my male clients which physical features spark a romantic attraction, and nine times out of ten, they mention nice eyes and a beautiful smile as their biggest turn-ons. (And, you thought they were just looking at your breasts!)
Do women plan to find themselves in relationships with men who don't take their wants or needs into consideration? I'm going to assume the answer is "no." So I have to ask: Why would you date a man who doesn't care what you want and need? Two of my private coaching clients are struggling with the notion of communicating their needs and desires to the men they date. Most of my clients have this challenge. I know I did.
If he is not nice to you, delete him. And I mean delete him from your facebook page, from your cell phone and anywhere else that he is taking up space in your life. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. That is the bottom line for all relationships and there is no compromise here.
A few months back, I was having a conversation with a man I'd begun dating. We were thinking about making things more official/exclusive. I asked him one night, while we were enjoying the spring weather at a local park, what his thoughts were about having children. He seemed surprised and said, "Isn't it a little early to be bringing that up?" I told him that I have known for years that I don't want to ever be anyone's Mom and that, if he really wanted children, I needed to know now before we got too attached as possible romantic partners.
Sow Seeds-Pull Weeds ".....Be Transformed By The Renewing Of Your Mind," Romans 12.2 The Healthy Brain
I got an email from a young woman who is twenty-one. She was dumped by a guy she she thought was “The One.” She asked how you can know if a guy is “The One.” Here’s what I told her: I think they all need to feel like “The One” so we can give our hearts over completely. That’s when we can feel deeply and then learn whatever lessons that person brings to our lives.