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The Game of Life is Rigged. In Your Favor.

The Game of Life is Rigged. In Your Favor.

I just recently read a beautiful magazine article written by a very science-minded neurosurgeon on his "Life during Death" experience and his realization of the Divine. It was an inspiring true story and I found myself breathing easier and deeper after reading it- which is always my internal signal that what I read is true. (I’ll have the link at the bottom of this article for you if you want to read it yourself) So what’s my favorite take-away from his story ? The message from Up High:

How to Relax  into  Intimacy

How to Relax into Intimacy

Intimacy is an essential part of a loving relationship.  But what is intimacy, really?  It is being present and open to each other.  Intimacy starts with being relaxed and comfortable with each other and progresses to sharing thoughts, feelings, kisses and caresses. Robert and Shelly made a lot of progress in their therapy with me.  They were communicating better about important issues such as finances and resolving disputes, but they both felt something was missing.  As Shelly put it, “I feel lonely at times even when we are together.” 

Divorce is not the problem. It is a solution

Divorce is not the problem. It is a solution

While filming the first episode of “Where are they Now” with Oprah Winfrey, one of the producers asked me to comment on the following quote, “Divorce is a river of pain that runs through our country.” I responded by saying, divorce isn’t the problem. It’s the solution.  Now don’t get me wrong, divorce is indeed a river of pain.  It is one of the most painful human experiences that we endure.  I know; I have been divorced.  But divorce isn’t the problem here; it is simply a tool that represents the evolution of a relation

31 EXCELLENT REASONS TO DATE

31 EXCELLENT REASONS TO DATE

1.To find a life partner. 2.To learn how to be vulnerable. 3.To expand your capacity to give and receive love. 4.To have fun. 5.To meet new people. 6.To get out and explore your city. 7.To practice being more forgiving. 8.To find the best possible partner. 9.To learn how to speak up for yourself. 10.To practice setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. 11.To stop listening Imaginary Frenemy and all the other critical voices. 12.To face your fears.

Rejection or Blessing in Disguise?

Rejection or Blessing in Disguise?

Rejection? Ouch!!! There is no point in trying to pretend that any one of us is immune from the sting.  Rejection can feel unpleasant, embarrassing, awkward and at times, completely devastating. It may crush our self-esteem or take us down a mental road of self-doubt, criticism and blame. Even for the most outwardly confident and self assured among us, it simply is not fun to feel rejected. In fact a sad truth is that very often the fear of rejection is what stops us from reaching our potential or going for what we really want in life.

Why Freud Was Wrong About Desire

Why Freud Was Wrong About Desire

Imagine legendary psychoanalyst, Dr. Sigmund Freud and writer C.S. Lewis having a 90 minute verbal clash about the existence of God, love, sex and the meaning of life. This is the intriguing theme of the Mark St. Germain play, Freud’s Last Session. It was brought to life in brilliant portrayals of Freud by Mike Nussbaum and C.S. Lewis by Coburn Goss in a Mercury Theater Production in Chicago.

Emotional Eat No More!

Emotional Eat No More!

Through tears of fear and frustration my client stated, “I just don't trust I can overcome this.”  She is not alone.   So many of us have “tried it all” only to fail again.  We have years under our belt that “nothing works.”  We feel defeated and alone in our ongoing battle with food.  We then end up feeling like blaaaaa. Today, I want to break down the anatomy of taking your power back and creating an entirely new relationship to food.   

man cheating on woman

9 Reasons Men Cheat on Beautiful Women

Warning: Do not read this article if you do not want to know how men truly think and feel.  There are some women who are so beautiful on the outside but so ugly on the inside that it actually makes them unattractive. They believe that the man of their dreams (MOYD) should cater to them but do not believe they should have to cater to the MOYD. That just kills the love song.  They do not feel they should cook, clean or do anything for their man.

8 Beloved TV Characters Who Battled Breast Cancer [EXPERT]
Samantha Jones (played by Kim Cattrall, pictured above) battled breast cancer on SATC.

8 Beloved TV Characters Who Battled Breast Cancer

In a nod to Breast Cancer Awareness month, we're taking a look at the television characters who were diagnosed with this gut-wrenching disease during prime time.

Loves Me? "In Loves" Me Not?

Loves Me? "In Loves" Me Not?

This guest article from PsychCentral was written by Susan Donnelly Every so often, in all seriousness, someone says, “I still love her, but I’m not in love with her.” A rather intriguing concept, this one. You don’t hear people say, “I still hate him, but I’m not in hate with him.” And we could go down the list of feelings people can have for one another.