You have poured: blood sweat tears into your livelihood Nothing more. Nothing less. Now imagine you are one room away from a meeting with your dream agent/ national manager/casting director/network executive/magazine editor. Notice how you’re feeling about your art, product, service, business or creative acumen. Maybe a tidal wave of anxiety floods your heart + head. Maybe you feel radically self-affirmed, glowing, or like you want to throw up.
What should you know about dating a divorced guy? Is it really THAT much more different than dating a man who has never been married? After all, they're both guys and the bottom line is, they are presently single. It's strange how the "label" of being divorced gets a negative reaction for some people, and that somehow there must have been something "wrong" with the person.
When you go through a divorce the marriage is dissolved in the eyes of the law but there's no equally clear-cut separation where your heart is concerned. You can remain psychically and emotional tied to your ex-husband and it has nothing to do with how he feels about you. These "emotional cords" that connect you with him can get stronger through time if you refuse to let go and hang on to what might have been.
If Lindsay Lohan wants to be appreciated as an accomplished actress, she's going to have to make a few changes. People frequently experience a huge disconnect between what they want and what they are doing to achieve it. What typically gets in the way of achieving their goals are negative and erroneous thoughts.
The ambiguity if separation can be personal torture. It shatters your self-worth and confidence, add to your financial stress, challenge your identity, and increase worries about taking care of your child(ren). Worse yet it the length of separation; a 2012 study completed at Ohio State University indicated that the average length of first separation was three years! If you know the relationship is going to end and that you are going to hire a lawyer, why wait?
Lannie* is a bright and charming young woman. At 21, she is out on her own working part time, going to school part time at the local community college, and trying to find her way in the world. She and her family have been through some tough times. Her parents divorced when she was nine, which started the seemingly endless back-and-forth living between two different homes and trying to make sense out of a life that was spiraling out of her control.
Buried in between all the unhealthy relationships that never turned out the way I wanted them to, in between all those heartbreaking dramatic episodes with guys that could never give me what I was so looking for, there were a few men who were what I now recognize as really healthy, relationship material kind of guys. But at the time I was just not open to seeing them that way; instead I continued to chase the unhealthy romantic fantasies about love that I had in my head.
“Why,” you may ask, “should I want to maintain a good relationship with my ex? We are splitting up. We don’t like each other. In fact, I am so angry that I can’t even imagine a “good” relationship. What does that even look like??” Here’s why: if you have a child together you will be seeing each other forever and though it may be hard to imagine today, you may also have grandchildren in common some day.
I was obsessed with the idea of love when I was a little girl. Love was Shaun Cassidy gazing at me with his heart-stopping hazel eyes from the poster on my wall or the beautifully coiffed Andy Gibb serenading me from one of my first-ever 45’s. Love was Christopher Atkins in his tiny Tarzan-like loin cloth hunting food for Brooke Shields on a deserted island. Love was bad-boy-in-leather, Danny, stealing the heart of pretty-in-pearls Sandy. Love was heart-stopping, pulse racing, can’t-get-enough-of-it-love.