Jealousy is a red hot topic! So many people have asked me in groups and healing sessions over the years how to deal with jealousy, how not to feel it, how to transcend it. It is good to understand that in fact, if we are jealous of someone, this feeling comes about because we are projecting some un-lived aspect of ourselves onto the person we are jealous about. We are imagining that this person is able to have a level of fulfillment that we are denied.
Why is it that so many of us put ourselves second? Why is it that we often sacrifice what is good for us to make someone else happy, and why is it such a difficult transition to start putting ourselves first? I see this issue not only every day in my office but also at times in my own life. Of course, there are those people who no matter what, without any regard for the other, place themselves first; but that is someone who is arrogant. We are not discussing arrogance here. We are simple discussing how to make a healthy transition into learning to put ourselves first.
Many women think they have sexual dysfunction when actually there is nothing wrong with them. They may have high expectations of how a woman should be during sex, which may have come from highly unrealistic literature or from the erroneous theory of vaginal versus clitoral orgasm (for more on this see Sarita's article on Great Sex for Women).
“They don't even see me!” “I repel good-looking women!” “I'm just not in the same league with the guys I'm interested in!” Finding a date can be rough. You try to look your best and act in way that will attract the right kind of attention from the right kind of person, but it isn't working. After several failed attempts, it may seem to you that the people you'd like to date aren't interested in you and never will be. It might even feel like nobody wants to date you.
Do you feel overwhelmed? Stressed? Need to pause for a moment? This mini-meditation is for those who find it difficult to meditate the academic way, and/or have little time to do it. Meditation is a powerful source of health and well-being. Even if you do not have enough free time to practice regularly and fully, a few moments of deep breathing while working on specific acupressure points are enough to help you calm down and center.
Let's face it, sometimes you only have five minutes to go from super mom to super sexy. For those occasions when you only have a few moments to spare, follow our experts' advice for how you can feel utterly irresistible in under 300 seconds.
You come home to find your partner unsteady on her feet. The smell of alcohol is overpowering. Every time she opens her mouth another wave of boozy smell washes over you and her eyes are glazed. However when you say “You have been drinking!” quick as a flash back comes the reply “No I haven’t”.
So often engaged people — especially brides — come to me after they have completely lost perspective about their wedding. Often they are frustrated that their partners are not involved enough in the wedding planning, or they feel distant from their loved ones. Although these are very common feelings that arise during wedding planning, some of these feelings can be caused by brides trying to achieve a "perfect" wedding (and in the process alienating their loved ones).
When I recently told a friend about my parenting book on homework, he chuckled a bit and asked: “Do you have a few minutes? I’ve got a good story.” He told me about a family he knows who shared with him their system for assuring student success. “The parents get all of the information possible in the beginning of the grading period and put all due dates of everything into a GANNT chart.” A GANNT chart is a great tool for breaking down tasks into smaller tasks and is a system I use with clients. So far so good.