Attraction is a mysterious and frustrating thing – especially if the guy gives you mixed signals...
By Carol Allen
If you've ever felt at war with yourself over a man, mooning about him one minute and then kicking yourself for even being attracted to him because he did or said something that felt really "off" to you the next, then you know how confusing it can be to figure out if what you're feeling is real or just crazy lust and physical chemistry. Well, men feel this way, too.
More than three years ago, when I was in the midst of saving my marriage, I read about the “speaker listener technique” and about “I statements.” The proponents of these techniques recommended that my husband and I practice them by role playing.
We did—once.
The role playing just felt so contrived and silly. And despite how many problems we had back then, I couldn’t think of any of them when it came time for role playing. My mind would go blank.
Prevent holiday stresses from affecting your relationships with loved ones
Christmas is a special time for families. However sometimes the pressures of the holiday season can bring out the worst between family members – just when we’re hoping to celebrate what’s best.
Here are 4 tips for preventing friction between you and your loved ones, at this special time of year:
Not long ago, I was jabbering with a bunch of girlfriends. One of them was complaining that her husband had been rude to her earlier in the day. She said, “There’s one thing I know and it’s this. He’s not getting any tonight. Or tomorrow night. Or the night after that.”
This article is a Q&A interview that was done about the "bottom" role in gay sexuality.
I was interviewed by a journalist from Esquire Magazine for an article in their sex column in the publication’s December 2010 issue. It was about the concept of “the power bottom” as it pertains to gay sexuality. Unfortunately, it didn’t make the official pages of the magazine, but below are the questions I was asked with my corresponding answers.
1. What is the difference between a bottom and a power bottom, or how is power bottom defined?
A wonderful way to improve your relationship is to consider what it feels like to be in their shoes.
More love and happiness for you; that’s my motivation in everything I do. Because we all come from diverse backgrounds, when we connect with another, all those old habits and perspectives come with us.
We call it baggage, but it’s not necessarily that it’s negative, it’d sometimes just different. Consequently, when we interact with each other, it’s easy to misunderstand and misinterpret what they mean.
What’s in the story? Magic, literally, like an incantation that creates reality.
I got three separate emails from three women, over the last few days, I found so ironic I had to ask each of them if I could share parts of their emails with all of you. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. All three of these women are between 27 and 30. All three are smokin’ hot ladies. All three work in the financial services industry. The similarities between them are shocking. Even more surprising, two of them live in Baltimore and one is from the DC metropolitan area. So, basically they live within an hour of each other.
The holidays can bring out the boo-hoo-blues for many people – especially those who are newly single. Between family events and holiday parties, it seems everyone is coupled up and jolly but you. Here are some sure-fire ways to get through the holidays, and maybe even experience a little holiday cheer!
An effective agreement means more than getting another person to do what you want.
Effective Agreements
Life is an ongoing process of creating agreements with others. An effective agreement means more than getting another person to do what you want. It means buy-in and true commitment from both people.
Successful Agreements
Your overall effectiveness in making and honoring agreements is greatly increased if you pay attention to three important elements:
1. Clarify you personal values.
2. Clarify your Vision as an individual.
