We are the ones holding tight to our man’s hands, or flashing our wedding bands/engagement rings as we pass. Yes, everyone knows that we are involved and that someone loves us. That’s not even to question. We are in relationships with good men, and we are proud of them! We have so much for which to be thankful, yet we are becoming more and more lackadaisical—lazy! We are all too comfortable wearing his pajamas and t-shirts on Thursdays, laying on the couch all day on Fridays, going straight to sleep at night on Saturdays, and wearing our head scarf ALL day on Sundays.
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Which one of these scenarios best describes your experience in relationships? 1. You always find yourself needing to please your partner. Constantly putting their needs ahead of yours, you find that at times you feel resentful wondering when all of your selfless action will be recognized and reciprocated. You wish your partner would be able to anticipate your needs as well as you anticipate theirs. Ultimately, all of this leads to you constantly twisting into a pretzel to receive love.
I was never a desperate woman, so let’s make certain that is clear! And while we are clearing the air, I also wasn’t unattractive, overweight, needy, or unintelligent. I had my own place, my own car, a very nice career, I took care of myself physically, dressed nicely, I was educated on many levels, had no children and to top it off—I grew up with my daddy in the house. I had no baggage. I was optimistic about the future and had no chip on my shoulder. I wasn’t even loud or obnoxious. In my opinion, I had it going on.
By Judith Joyce
What is the most important relationship in your life? Would a list of your relationships include your relationship with YOU? It’s not uncommon for that relationship to be missing or at the bottom, especially for women. Having been programmed since birth to be a caretaker, do you ensure everyone else is taken care of while leaving you at the gate with little or no time/attention for your needs, let alone desires?
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Suzanne Phillips, Psy.D., ABPP A recent study reported in the Journal of Consumer Psychology found that young couples are actually better than long-term partners at knowing each other’s preferences. In this study of 38 young couples aged 19 to 32 and 20 older couples aged 62 to 78; the older couples had far more difficulty correctly predicting their partners’ food preferences.
Some assembly required, batteries not included. Tis the season of miracles! Whether your tradition includes the birth of a Christ child or not, the Holidays bring with them a cherished renewal of hope, peace and joy, all of which are miracles in this often challenging and troubled world. It seems every holiday movie has in it a message of miracles abounding. The Holiday season truly is one of miracles.
GIFT GIVING – TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP It’s gift giving time. Are you feeling clueless or stressed over what to give your lover? Don’t want to become one of those crazed last minute shoppers? Or worse yet might be the fear of hearing a polite, less than enthusiastic ‘thank you.’ Have your previous gifts taken up residence in the back of a drawer or the corner of a closet, never to be worn or used? I’m going to make it easy for you.
By Rori Raye
By Rori Raye Have you ever pretended that everything was OK, or felt afraid to tell a man how angry you were because you didn’t want to rock the boat? If so, then you probably believe the cliché that men hate talking about feelings. You’ve come to accept that it’s a normal thing for men—they were just born that way. Unfortunately, believing this myth prevents you from ever truly connecting with a man.
Did you know that most men decide if a woman is "girlfriend material" within a few seconds of meeting her? That's right - if you don't know how to create the right first impression with a man, then you just might get thrown into the "just a friend" category FOR GOOD. That's why it's important to understand what causes a man to be attracted to you at a deeper level from the get-go.
"I can't believe you don't want to fruit cake at Aunt Martha's!" "But we ALWAYS go to the church's Messiah Sing-along! I already made plans for the kids and I to go!" "I understand you're Jewish sweetheart, but I didn't think that meant you wouldn't want us to have a Christmas tree."