We all have varied perceptions of what fun is and the types of memories most treasured. Everyone remembers occasions a little bit differently, so your perspective about momentous life events is important and ought to be recorded.
by Meagan McCrary Being invited home for the holidays by your beau is a major step in a relationship. But meeting the fam for the first time can be intimidating, especially if you’re staying with them. Follow these seemingly-obvious-but-too-often-forgotten guidelines for surviving the holidays with your boyfriend’s family. After all, there could be a lot more to come. Do: Bring something. Don’t: Bring your mom’s famous turkey stuffing.
Julie is sure that her boyfriend is mad at her. Or that he doesn't think she's as hot as he did when they started dating. Or that he is more attracted to other (thinner) women. Or that he is going to break up with her because he's so angry about something she said or did or possibly because of that other thinner, sexier woman in his life.
Just like the miracle of a leaf falling into your hand at a precise moment, so it is that your life partner has fallen into your heart in this life. Practice honoring the specialness that this relationship is and honoring it as the divine gift that it is. You may get stuck in the day-to-day, human stuff, distractions and circumstances, but I invite you to keep your eye on the miracle that it is: that you were brought together for a special purpose.
Many of us imagine that cheating is only reserved for men. Even among liberal thinking men and women, many of us still hold that image in our minds. So when a woman is the cheater, we tend to have less tolerance than we do for men. But a very conservative statistic estimates that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair at some time.
Have you ever looked back over your past relationships and said to yourself "What the hell was I thinking?" As you honestly reflect on your past, you will see that the red flags were waving all around you. There was a chance you may not have picked up on them because you were blinded by what you thought was love. But if you get real with yourself, you will see that the red flags were there, waving right in front of your eyes, almost from the very beginning. But you chose to ignore them.
If you are married, you may have experienced a significant letdown after the wedding festivities were over. In my practice, couples often report that the day after the wedding they get into a big fight, and the honeymoon is suddenly ruined. Some say they never really recover from the blow out. In the rush of getting married, many of us forget to reflect on our internalized messages about marriage. These messages are unseen ‘ghosts’ who say, "I do" along with you.
Maturity can be a good thing, especially when it comes to fine wine, aged cheese or ripe, delicious fruit. But as a state of mind, maturity can sometimes be prudish, lifeless and boring – exactly the reason why Peter Pan never wanted to grow up. “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” – George Bernard Shaw
In light of the devastating events that allegedly took place at Penn State and Syracuse Universities, we now see fresh evidence of horrific child sexual abuse that continues to be all too prevalent in our society. How many children have been violated and are living with horrible emotions, too frightened to come forward? Although it is impossible to put a cocoon around your children, there are many measures that you can put to use, which will mitigate the danger.
In the world of psychology, resilience, or the ability to bounce back from adversity, is an important aspect of emotional stability. Generally, it seems that when we are young, a strong sense of self, held by protections in our environment, helps us to develop a sense of resiliency later in life. That is, some children have the good fortune of strong role models who are able to project a sense of well-being for the children, despite adversity.