When divorce occurs, traditions of visiting family leave an unfulfilled emptiness regardless of the busy-ness of your schedule. This time of year is hard on divorced dads, especially those recently divorced. The opportunity to see your kids smiling is at best half as much. Divorce can be like putting on a pair of glasses with dark grey lenses — life turns dull, grim and depressing.
Most of the time, it's a fairly empty statement, a way to mitigate the blow of the "it's over" for both parties. But once in a blue moon, you really do mean it: let's be friends.
Staying healthy is like buying toilet paper. You have to think about it. When I was in my 20′s I was constantly running out of toilet paper in my apartment. It just wasn’t on my radar to think about. Someone else had always bought the toilet paper in my life – my mom, my college dorm – and so when it came time for me to assume my own toilet paper responsibilities, I had to go through a period of learning the hard way.
The truth is, love is all around you. It’s there for you at any moment you choose. But romantic love, somehow it doesn’t seem so easy or so simple, does it? So, how do you NOT just rely on luck and KNOW that at any moment, the right man for you may show up? Here’s how in a checklist for you. (For those of you who like checklists: you’re welcome) ;-) Here are my TOP 8 Signs that you are in fact, REALLY READY for love:
I have been through quite an ordeal this week and the last think I wanted to do was to write my weekly post. Some of you know what was happening and I will not bore you with any details, as exciting as they may be. But my ordeal got me thinking, something I do not like to do when I am at work or before coffee. What Is Love?
We all have different types of guys who make us go weak in the knees. Many of my friends like to date the “bad guy” who is very sexy and mysterious and will keep them guessing. I go for the nice, cute All American guy next door who will bring flowers, call when he says he will and holds the door for you. I notice a trend among my younger cousins … they love to date the nerdy geek. I actually have a cousin who is one. At 17 he loves opera, architecture, Kafka, politics and knows his way around technology.
Dr. Romance writes: Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often begin to ask...“What now?” -- which prompts a desire to search for meaning.
It’s after dinner and I’m online sipping my glass of wine. The day is winding down, but I’m just getting starting; socializing with my virtual friends. Just for fun, I do a search for an old boyfriend on Facebook, and OMG, there he is. I send a friend request and receive his reply immediately. OK, that was way too fast. Was he looking for me, too? And before I know it, we are connected – again.
During this time of holiday parties, luncheons, gifts of food and leftovers, mindful eating could be your gift to self. The basic premise is to slow down and tune into all aspects of your eating. This includes an accepting and compassionate stance regarding your attitudes toward eating and your body, choice of foods, portion sizes, sensory experiences and the actual mechanics of eating.
Suspending Judgement (The 3-Date Rule) As human beings we can’t help but make instant assessments of people we meet. It’s something our subconscious minds just do automatically. We can’t turn that instant first impression instinct off. What we can do however, is consciously decide that we’re going to withhold judgment of the person we’re meeting until after we get to know them a little better. Don’t limit yourself by cutting off your options because your first impression of someone didn’t sweep