Helen Fisher, “Anatomy of Love and The Sex Contract.,” is required reading in many graduate programs for future Marriage and Family Therapists. Helen Fisher is a Biological Anthropologist who has studied the human brain in love. Some of her findings indicate that we are genetically predisposed in certain ways depending upon whether we were born female or male, and that chemistry does, in fact, play an important role.
Although less than 4% of divorced couples remarry, it is not unheard of.
When I tell my clients that we attract each other at our common level of woundedness, they often ask "What exactly does this mean?" Our level of woundedness is the level to which we abandon ourselves. While how we abandon ourselves may be different, how much we each abandon ourselves within our primary relationship is similar.
As we get older we start to feel the results of ageing caused by the decrease of hormone production. By the time men and women have reached the age of 50, we have lost at least half of their hormone production. For so many women who have chosen to bypass hormone replacement therapy for alternative therapy; the information found in John Gray’s book Venus on Fire Mars on Ice is highly useful. Teaches you to teach your body produce the good hormones naturally.
My wife is amazed at our differences in sleep habits. I'm usually good for about 5-6 hours. She, however, has far healthier sleep habits and is able to step away from distractions at night like work responsibilities, tv, email, etc in order to get a night's sleep that allows her to be functional throughout the day. She's even able to do it without coffee, which she gave up for tea a few years back (insanity to me). The fact remains, however, that our lifestyle choices and the culture that we live in demand less and less sleep from us.
You can misread a man’s intentions and character when you've only dated for a short time. Even the most savvy women can fall for what I call a “runaway man” and not realize it until it’s too late. As much as you would like to believe in love at first sight and believe that the great chemistry you feel with a new man is lasting — the truth is that when you date it takes time to truly know someone.
Aside from being a relationship expert in private practice, I also teach at a local university. Recently, I had the opportunity to teach a class on Relationships and Marriage. A great deal of the material is devoted to providing proper expectations. One of the students said that she felt the course should be mandatory for all college students. I believe many of us in the field would agree with her.
A new study published by Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzes 2,442 postings written by people who pay for sex on an online discussion board that reviews sex providers and their services. Approximately one-third of the posts discussed emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients.
I love bookstores. Seriously. On any given weekend, you’re likely to find my scouring through my favorite San Francisco bookshelves hunting for my next read. You truly never know what you are going to find, and that’s the very best part. Case in point? Booty Food by Jacqui Malouf. Yes, you read that right. Booty Food.