It’s that time of year again; the holidays are upon us! I love the holidays, but I’m not a fan of buying gifts. I’m one of those rare women who don’t like to shop. I don’t know, maybe I got all my shopping ya-yas out when I was a buyer for a major department store. Actually, what happens is that I agonize over buying the perfect gift, but I’m not great with paying attention to details, so I never know what the perfect gift might be.
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Have you ever gone on a few dates with a guy, thought things were going well, and then things fizzled out without warning? I can't tell you how many women write to me about this. They had a great couple of first dates, the guy kept asking her back out, she got her hopes up, and then the guy stopped initiating anything. If this has happened to you, you know how disappointing it can be. But if you understand a guy's process when it comes to dating, you can save yourself a lot of frustration and instead set yourself up for the kind of lasting love you're looking for with the right guy.
By Julie Spira
Recently I wrote an article about "Recycling an Ex at the Holidays" on Huffington Post. It was inspired by my own experience of receiving an email from a former beau requesting my attendance at his office holiday party. It had been over 6 months since I had seen him. I pondered whether it was a good decision to be his date during the holiday season where both emotions and breakups are at an all-time high. Could we be just friends? Did he want to start over again?
While the holidays are advertised to bring us cheer, joy, and gifts, what many of us also end up with is a rack full of stress, guilt, and debt. Why? Because we listen to the negative voices in our head telling us to buy more, eat more, visit more and do more — when we are already stretched for time, money, and energy.
By Amy Johnson
Getting over a break up is hard. And unfortunately, common. If you’re actively participating in the dating game, chances are good that you’re going to experience a break up sooner or later. Of course, not all break ups are created equal. While some break ups might be cured by a night out with friends and a new date, others are much more significant and painful.
What I mean by seduction is not to strip off his clothes and jump him. Rather, it’s the subtle dance of love that is so delicious. It’s this dance that can cause a man to fall in love with you and know he’s found the woman of his dreams.There’s a reason the call it the ‘art of seduction.’
When a man is in a bad mood, withdrawn, sad, or whatever, a woman’s tendency is to want to support and nurture him. Women do this to other women and it’s welcomed. But when you do it to a man, he wants nothing to do with it. Men process their feelings and emotions differently than women do. They want to think things through, or sometimes to suppress what they’re feeling. Let them. As author John Grey says, let him go to his cave. When he’s ready, he’ll come out, with the mood usually gone.
A women wrote to me with the following: I am in relation for last 4 years. He loves me, cares about me, and says he wants to spend his whole life with me. But he is not ready to get engaged and that kills me. I have tried alot to change his mind but I’ve failed. He says he still needs time. If he loves me then what’s the reason stoping him from engagement? Here’s my response to her and any woman who is trying to push a man into marriage:
Xena: "I let my fear and hatred blind me to everything." Gabrielle: "Sometimes the past can do that. Xena, if I had been through what you've been through…" Xena: "No. No! You understand hatred but you've never given into it. You don't know how much I love that." Excerpt from "The Price," a second season episode of "Xena: Warrior Princess."
Whether you have been married for decades or you are recently starting a life together as a couple, how you handle difficulties in your marriage can mean the difference between a happy, safe, and intimate relationship and a frustratingly distant one. William Glasser, MD, creator of Choice Theory, says that when we are unhappy with our situation, we attempt to change it by looking outside of ourselves to seek the cause of our troubles. In practical terms, way too often we look for the culprit in our spouse.