Dating isn't always easy. It's easy to get mixed signals from your special someone. As women, we tend to read more into things that are said to us. And we take people on their word. If he says "I'll call you" well that means he'll call. Unfortunately, in 'guy speak', that could mean he will call, he will never call or he may call the day you've finally moved on from him just to play with your head.
[Interview by Vitra Singh for Diva Gossip] Doing dating right can be a challenge for men and women who just want to meet “the right one.” Diving in haphazardly without stopping to think about what you are looking for, qualities that are essential, and how to bring up some tough talk can hurt more than help.
I recently went to see the new Disney movie "Oz the Great and Powerful." You see, as a psychologist and author of the book Follow the Yellow Brick Road: How to Change for the Better When Life Gives You Its Worst, I took a special interest in this film. In my book, I devote an entire chapter to the concept of the wizard, and it is through this lens that I warn my clients to watch out; the wizard will wreck your relationship.
Congratulations to all people in recovery. Recovery can be the most rewarding time of your life. It is exciting to learn new ways of coping with the daily messes of life. Learning to gain a sense of control over your emotional life is a wonderfully gratifying experience. Alas, some of you may still being pushed around by life’s messes and chaos. Fear not, by learning to deal with your emotional response you can have a sense of peace amidst the chaos.
A great deal of pain is the result of someone acting out an emotion. Very often, that acting-out is mistakenly identified as "expression." You hear, "I have to get my anger out!" as an excuse for yelling, or worse. "I have to express my feelings!" doesn't mean kicking the cat. One of the benefits of psychotherapy is learning the difference between expression and acting-out.
I usually catch up on my leisure reading when I travel. Lately I’ve indulged in books about the history of sex, but it’s even more rewarding to find sexy history in non-sexy books. The History of White People by Nell Irvin Painter is fascinating. Not that I’m a history buff At. All., but it would appear that she’s a super thorough researcher. For example, this tidbit struck me….
"Is it normal that my husand ... ?" Have you ever asked yourself this question and wondered whether or not that thing your partner just said or did was okay? Many of us second-guess ourselves. We worry that we're making a big deal out of nothing. We don't want to start a fight or make things tense, but certain behaviors feel hurtful or seem like huge red flags.
Communication is by far the most important ‘sexual enhancement’, because when you’re engaged in each other mentally it’s easier to connect sexually. There’s also the fact that your partner can’t read your mind, so helping them out by communicating your sexual needs will just make it that much more likely to get exactly what satisfies you!
Dear THOSE Young Women: I gotta tell you straight. You might be beautiful. You might be built. You might love your body... and that's great. Seriously... I'm happy for you (no sarcasm). In today's fast-food, overindulged, carbohydrate-addicted world, maintaining a hot figure is challenging. However... let's not kid ourselves. You can look in the mirror and feel proud of your body. You can walk down the street and receive looks and compliments on your beauty. That's not the reason you're on Instagram...