by Karen S. Exkorn, for GalTime.com We all have different sides to us, right? But do we always embrace them? The truth is, I almost wrote Fifty Two Shades of Blue-ish (a parody of the book you know well) under a pseudonym. Why? Because I was afraid. Close and caring friends and colleagues echoed my fears. “Are you sure you want to write this book under your own name?” they
By Eleanore Wells, for GalTime.com Yikes! This Date Sucks! Now What? I’ve been on more than a few bad dates in my lifetime, but I haven’t had a seriously bad date in a long time. That’s because I’ve learned what to do. And what not to do. Here are a few tips on how to cut your “oh no!” dates down to a minimum. (Of course, I’m assuming that the badness in the bad date is not your fault.)
I’ve wondered often how I, who was in the convent for a year, could have become the authority-free woman I am today. Of us nine kids, I probably took Church rules the most seriously. I remember urging my teen brother in the 1950’s to ”be careful” on his dates. I hadn’t understood what sex was about until I was myself a teen, so I took it on myself to encourage siblings to follow the rules.
Divorce means big change. It's a big deal; income, health insurance, homes — spouses come with a whole slew of things.
The answer is yes, most people will take the time to make their relationship better if given the proper tools to do so. Being pro-active in your relationship: Far too many people will sit around and wait for the other person to do something to make the relationship better. The biggest problem with this is that it never happens. The reason is because the other person cannot read your mind or begin to make you happy, fulfilled or satisfied without you telling them how to do it.
Everyone knows it takes three trimesters to hear the first cries of a newborn baby. But did you know it takes three trimesters to give birth to a real solid relationship?
Jerry came to my office because of the “pressure” from his wife. “If I don’t change my involvement with the family, my wife threatened to kick me out,” Jerry said with a tired look on his face. As I completed the mental health evaluation, Jerry mentioned he felt blah throughout the day and consequently didn’t have much energy to do things with the family. He described his home life as demanding, as he tried to “please” his wife and kids. He did not sleep well and struggled to get up in the morning.
Do you have major communication blocks that are potholes for emotional and physical intimacy? Or maybe the road conditions that are keeping your relationship from a smooth ride are those nasty hairpin turns of expectation, insecurities and fear. To get out of the ditches focus your attention on the fact that your relationship is not about "you" or "him" but instead it's about being a couple and understanding what it takes to create lasting love.
As a scientist and closet nerd, I've known my share of nerdy men. They're great guys, but if you aren't accustomed to being around them, here are a few things you can do to ensure success.
When you have a spat with your guy, do you resort to the silent treatment? Maybe you pout until he caves in to your way of thinking, because that’s what always works with everyone else. Perhaps this tactic: fleeing the scene, refusing to engage at all ... then pretending that nothing happened once tempers cooled down. Most of us form a pattern of dealing with those we are most vulnerable to as a means of protection from possible emotional hurt. It is so ingrained that one may not even be aware that it is a hinderance to a connected, stable and loving relationship.