Revenge is sometimes said to be sweet. If you're dealing with the anger, outrage and hurt that can occur after your partner had an affair, you may be craving that purported “sweetness.” In fact, the idea of acting out in a revenge-ful way may even seem to make you feel less helpless and more powerful.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Kate Thieda, MS, LPCA, NCC Whoa, a professional therapist is giving tips on how to stay out of her office?!? Yes, yes, I am. Having said that, I always recommend that if you and/or your partner are having serious struggles with mental health, you consult a professional.
Most people jump into personal development to help solve a problem. The real goal is to have a new experience or result whether it is a new love, a new career or a new level in income. In that desire itself, your subconscious has already built a trap for you because it doesn’t want to change. Clever little function, it rigs your progress and tries to get you to self-destruct before the change happens. Darn that subconscious!
One of the most painful things to experience is the break up from someone in which you were connected to and really loved. Many people have a difficult time getting over an ex and will do just about anything to ease the loneliness and pain that follows the end of a relationship. Some will even jump immediately into another relationship while still attempting to heal emotionally from the lost of their previous love.
In part I of Dating After Divorce (which I suggest you read first if you haven’t already), I introduced to to the first five crucial steps to protect you from loneliness & regret as you venture back into the single world. Today we are going to cover the last five steps, so let’s get to it. Oh and by the way, these steps are very helpful if you just been through a break up as well.
All right, girls, we’ve all heard the hype and the “reasons” (AKA excuses) for why we shouldn’t have to be the ones to buy condoms. We’ve heard that it’s a man’s responsibility to protect himself, just like we've heard it’s our responsibility to be on the pill or some other form of birth control.
We've all heard it at some point on our search for love: "Love shows up when you least expect it." So, this means we should stop looking for love in order to find it. What if we applied this advice to other goals we have in our lives and the world?
Over the years, people have been very curious about the various fantasies and role plays that come up through the phone sex calls we receive. People always ask, “What’s the craziest thing you have ever heard?” I saved a real email request from a client about his fantasy, and I’ll let you read some of it, as it will give you some insight as to how unique people’s fantasies really are:
This is the easiest thing I have ever done, and it’s working! How often do you get to say that — about anything?! Honestly, I have never felt better in my life, and I KNOW it’s due to this new way of eating, and the effects it’s having on my body, internally and externally.
This is a quote from John Mellencamp and it got stuck in my head while listening to NPR one day, on a Terry Gross/ Fresh Air interview. That day, life was good, the sun was shining and I was gathering provisions to cook a typical Hampton's meal for a client. Typical means fresh, local caught fish, farm stand produce, and most likely fire from a grill. "Summer is short", I thought, all too short here on the east coast. Note to self: take advantage of it, it's all too soon October.