Hurt feelings. Or rather a life without hurt feelings is the holy grail of relationship prospecting. At least that is true with the women who work with me. Each type, Scarlett, Snow White and Rapunzel are shocked to discover they have aligned themselves with that belief. There is a flawed premise hiding under every love sabotage habit.
“Can you make me forget someone?” she said to me over the phone. “Tell me a little more.” “My boyfriend – my ex-boyfriend, that is. I want to forget him, forget all about him, like he never existed, like I never even met him. Can you hypnotize me to totally forget him?”
A recent survey indicated that two thirds of all divorces are initiated by the woman. This would suggest that women are prone to discontentedness more than their male counterparts. Right? Actually wrong. It’s a testament to the frustration of a much more common problem.
I am a huge proponent of feeling all of your emotions, fully and completely. That’s one of the many joys of being human and female. BUT, there is an overarching emotion that runs your life. Are you positive or negative? Do you notice what’s good in your life, or do you put your emphasis on what’s not working?
The lightbulb that has needed changing for two weeks. The bag of clothes you’ve been meaning to donate. The pile of papers on your desk. Balancing your checkbook. Losing those last 10lbs. What have you been meaning to get to for days, weeks, or months that you’re just NOT dealing with?
I received an email this morning from a subscriber to one of my newsletters. Dear Sir, I have a question, if there is a worker who is having a relationship with another worker in the same company and they are keeping it very secret and very thing outside of the workplace, is there something wrong with that situation? Thank you for your assistance. This is my reply:
If there is one constant we can count on in life, it’s change. Change is the only thing that remains constant. What this means is that we need to learn to live and let live, and learn to let go. What this also means is that life is full of loss. We lose people in our lives. Friends come and go, co-workers forget us, family members go off to college, get married, move abroad, and pets, parents and grandparents die.
When you live a life of reaction instead of response, you seldom choose your actions. Do you feel: at the mercy of whatever life throws your way like you're fulfilling other's agendas that your own needs are seldom met you are constantly setting aside your dreams and goals as if you are a background extra instead of in the leading role
When you meet a new man you like, it’s tempting to think you need to actively do something to show him why he should be attracted to you and interested in you. You might think you need to show him what a great cook you are by making him a meal or helping him with a problem so that he sees that you’d make a good partner.
By Christian Carter Author of best-selling eBook Catch Him & Keep Him and free newsletter When you meet a new man you like, it’s tempting to think you need to actively do something to show him why he should be attracted to you and interested in you. You might think you need to show him what a great cook you are by making him a meal or helping him with a problem so that he sees that you’d make a good partner.