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Top 10 Erogenous Zones For Women

Top 10 Erogenous Zones For Women

Getting to know your own body and all your pleasure zones is a dauting task. One myth I like to bust is that people think you should just "know" what turns you on. That's not the case though, it takes time, courage and lots of alone time to get down to the oohhs and ahhhs.  However, even when people are alone, they are sometimes without a map! I have created a video for women (to get to know themselves better) and men (to get to know their ladies better) that will help introduce all of your erogenous zones. 

Find Love with a Dating Plan

Find Love with a Dating Plan

A tip for dating is to take the time to put a dating plan into action so that you can be successful in your quest for love. Many of you are probably groaning to yourselves as you read this and thinking, “A dating plan? That sounds like work!” And thus, we come to the intial phase of your dating plan, which is to decide:

Ten Questions To Answer: Is Your Relationship Good For You?

Ten Questions To Answer: Is Your Relationship Good For You?

1. Safety: Are you physically, mentally, emotionally or verbally harmed? Are there times you are afraid of what your partner will do or say? Are there times that seeing your partner fills you with dread? 2. Self-esteem: Do you feel guilty, "less-than", not good enough, not worthy in your relationship? Does your partner criticize your behavior, your looks, or any other traits and qualities? Do you own that criticism and internalize it? Do you beat yourself up because of what you've done or continue to do?

3 Top Beliefs and Feelings That Trip You Up (EXPERT)

3 Top Beliefs and Feelings That Trip You Up (EXPERT)

Do you find yourself doing, doing, doing for everyone but yourself and then feeling consumed by guilt when you decide to take time for you or set limits around your availability or what you’re willing to do for others? Do you label yourself as “selfish” when you want to do something for yourself or even by yourself? Do you ever feel ashamed because there are times you don’t want to do anything for anybody else?

How Threat Emotions Cause Us To Misread Our Partner

How Threat Emotions Cause Us To Misread Our Partner

Just how well do we read our intimate partners? As long as we’re composed, we’re generally pretty good at it. But whenever our threat emotions (i.e. anxiety and anger) are triggered, accuracy goes right out the window. Emotion-driven misinterpretations spell trouble for relationships. They lead to escalating accusations, disappearing trust and constricting hearts. If only we could recognize how emotions shape perceptions, we could restore close connections with our partner. That’s the aim of this primer.

How Your Doubts Can Fuel Your Dreams [EXPERT]
Sometimes your doubts can be what your dreams are made of.

How Your Doubts Can Fuel Your Dreams

Often, when we get in touch with our most heartfelt and hopeful dreams, what may also surface are some of our doubts. There is an important relationship between (what I refer to as) the dreamer and the doubter that live inside of us. It is useful and necessary to develop skills for dealing with our doubt; otherwise your dreams could very well get squelched.

Why Do I Feel A Strange Need To Be Married?

Why Do I Feel A Strange Need To Be Married?

I don’t think we are all programmed to get married but it definitely sounds like Missy is. As she approached her 22nd birthday she wondered half-seriously if the strange obsessive thoughts of going out and finding a serious relationship meant she was going crazy. After being so occupied with studying and working she felt ridiculous but kept wondering if it really was time for her to get married. There are several different ways to get programmed to be married.

What We Learned About Love

What We Learned About Love

Through working with clients who grew up in fairly healthy environments, it’s become increasingly clear to me that the blueprints of beliefs and experiences we absorb about love are not only connected to how we were directly treated by our parents, but also by how they treated each other and, perhaps even more importantly, how they treated themselves. For example, if we witnessed a mother who suffered from worry and anxiety and never addressed it directly, it’s quite likely that the worry and anxiety would have been passed down to one or more of her children.