Relationships are sometimes a tricky balancing act. Whether it be intimate relationships, friendships, family relationships, or work/business relationships it seems that there was never one specific guide we were given to making relationships work. Much of the time, we learned from our parents, and or caregivers by following their lead. Then, we learned from our peers, siblings and eventually our partners by trial and error. Many of us were taught to have manners, to treat people politely, to be nice.
This series is designed to address personal boundaries and help you to identify those that you or someone you know may be having some difficulties with. By identifying boundaries and knowing when they get crossed, we stand a greater chance of protecting ourselves and gaining more fulfilling relationships. Sometimes we focus on meeting someone else’s needs and end up sacrificing our own. By putting limits in place you will find that not only do you feel healthier, but you have also surrounded yourself with others who feel the same!
Today we learned that another celebrity marriage is ending; Katy Perry & Russell Brand will be filing for divorce. It's big news because they're young and famous, because the marriage only lasted 14 months and because they always seemed an unlikely couple. But marriages are ending every day among us, especially as the new year begins. As someone who's never been married, it makes me wonder. Do people get so caught up in the whirlwind romance that they don't think about the idea of lifetime commitment? Or do they go into the marriage thinking, "I hope this works, but good thing for 'irreconcilable differences' in California"?
ASK ERICA Erica J. Burns, M.A. New Year's Review You may know that I'm a couple's coach and I practice a form of couple's coaching called Imago Relationship Therapy. There's an Imago tool for couples to use at New Year's time called the Annual Review. Because it is such a great relationship building tool, I wanted to share it with you. As I reviewed it I realized that it could be useful for anyone. So I thought I'd present it to you here with the
The biggest discrepancy between men and women is the way they look at relationships. Women need a relationship to have sex. Guys need sex to have a relationship. That says everything. Guys could do without the relationship if they just had sex, most of the time. Women think they could do without the sex if they had a great relationship. But…they can’t, nor should they. Women’s ambiguous feelings toward sex and relationships tend to initiate most of the conflict within the relationship and marriage. It’s not that women don’t want sex; it’s simply that they want the relationship more. Guys cannot understand this, and they go to great lengths to try and “trick” the system, but the system is set in place, and the only one who gets tricked is the guy and whoever he is in a relationship with.
Why is it that some men are able to get as many dates with women that they can handle while other men are barely get a first date much less a second date? Life can sometimes be cruel and among the cruelest things for a man to deal with would be when women seemingly pass them over without even a second thought. Those men that find themselves so seemingly unattractive to women will always wonder why they are so unlucky.
Giving your children an age appropriate and respectful explanation of your decision to split can even be a relief from the constant feeling of tension not knowing what could happen. The costs of living in an environment that always feels tense and strained is toxic for overall health and well-being.
The only thing that stays the same is change. When we begin to see our lives as being routine, then any deviation from the way it's always been done can cause panic. Take New Year's Resolutions for example. If you have not consistently followed through on achieving your resolutions from previous years, then why start now? Many people make the mistake of creating resolutions with no idea how or what skills they'll need to achieve their results.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. Western culture views independence as a virtue. We’ve been taught that a truly strong person doesn’t need anybody to survive and thrive. But being attached to your partner is actually a good thing.