Pssst. I have a secret. This little nugget of insight just might force a whole paradigm shift in how you view your relationship. It just might change everything - for the better. The arguments you have with your partner aren't really about what you think they are. Really.
The wish for a bikini body motivates many a springtime diet. But if your beach body dream came true, how would your mate feel? The answer to that question may well affect your progress—whether you’re aware or not. For now, let’s set aside the issue of whether or not it makes sense to diet for a short-term goal, like a “bikini body”. It often doesn’t. However, our mate’s responses to our efforts to change--how we care for ourselves, how we look—weave in and out of the change process itself, no matter how or when it occurs.
Single and struggling in the dating world. Find out the reason for your troubles. Many singles tell me they have a problem getting a love interest to stay in their life. Everything starts off fine but then the guy disappears a few weeks into the relationship. After an intense pursuit of her love, he just stops. Now, you can read all the rules and understand men until you are blue in the face, but you if you have a “love leak” this is what will happen to you no matter how clever you are in your dating tactics.
John only had a short affair. And it was a long time ago. Years later the truth came to light and his marriage to Maryanne hit the critical list. Maryanne didn’t want the marriage to end. But how could she ever again trust John? John desperately wanted to be forgiven for the past, and find a way for the marriage to continue.
(Given the choice of one square of dark chocolate or an orgasm, chose the orgasm for health). I work in the Medical field so going to lectures given by a variety of Physicians is a common event. A couple of weeks ago I attended a lecture by a Cardiologist from the East Coast. He was speaking about healthy foods for the heart and mentioned chocolate. My ears perked up since I love chocolate. I was disappointed when he told the crowd that it only took one square of a dark chocolate bar to give you health benefits (per day).
Women are the leaders in the relationship. Men know it better than women do. A woman can change the tone and energy more easily then they realize… and it’s fun to watch a man respond. The quickest way to shift the energy in the moment–and as the primary way you interact with each other–is to remember that beneath the surface, down in his and your hearts, is a desire to be loved, accepted and appreciated.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Christy Matta, M.A. Popular culture in the form of romantic comedies and pop music would lead you to believe that happiness in any relationship comes from finding that special someone whose personality is the perfect counterpart to your own. However, well-being in relationships is not simply a magical mix of personality characteristics between two people. Improving and maintaining relationships involves skills that can be learned.
"She says we're over! I can't believe she left. I don't understand. She says she's done. I want her back. I'm reading books and coming to counseling. I'm going to church. She says she doesn't want to hear it because I wouldn't do those things before when she asked me to. I love her. I can't live without her. What can I do? How can I get her to give me another chance?"
There is nothing more frustrating to the single woman than the moment she suspects the man she has tagged as “Mr. Possible Long-term Relationship,” begins to show signs of pulling away. Before we launch into signs he actually is “pulling away,” (there are signs you want to recognize) it’s critical to understand that, in truth, women may often only imagine the vanishing act is about to ensue when, in fact, it’s merely fear from past relationships that ended abruptly sparking your vivid imagination.
DISC is an assessment tool that many are familiar with in a professional setting. It has great application as a tool designed to assist in the development and improvement of interpersonal communication skills. Understanding your DISC profile will enhance the ability to be self-aware of the four dimensions of your behavioral style. Successful people are aware of their strengths and find ways to place themselves in those situations that are likely to result in positive interactions.