I know a lot of women will not agree with me. I also am aware it might be wishful thinking, but I don’t think so. I have very candid conversations with a lot of men. So, I might be going out on a limb here, but I’m just going to say it. I believe the vast majority of men would rather be with a real woman, with womanly curves, who is comfortable in her skin and with her body, then a size four model type who is hiding in the dark and under the covers.
Couples enter counseling with me often with the question, “Should we live together or get married?” As a psychologist and couples therapist, I have been trained to explore questions first, prior to giving an answer. And the truth is, for this question, I don’t HAVE an answer, though I do have access to a great deal of data and I do have a response.
I read a great blog on hoarding the other day (check it out here). It got me thinking about the different things people hoard and reminded me of an epiphany I had a few years ago. My kid used to hoard things—scrap paper, broken toys, the prizes from Happy Meals—which drove me nuts. Every few months I’d have to go into her room with a big trash bag to get rid of it all.
The face gives us vital clues about the strengths and challenges that may be experienced within a relationship. Knowing more about each other prior to moving in together, gives couples a "heads up" about what to expect. For example: If you have wide set eyes and your partner has close set eyes, this could be an issue. You may see your close set eyed partner as being overly sensitive and very intense. Whereas you are more laid back and wondering why your partner is getting so upset. What was not an issue prior to moving in together could now become very annoying.
Who doesn't love a good multiple choice test? Wasn't it always a relief - when the teacher would say that the exam was going to be 'multiple choice'?? It meant that all you had to do was read through the possible answers and pick the one that sounded the most 'right'. You were not required to actually generate and craft an answer on your own. The test had already done half the work for you! Speaking as a person who has always resented tests in general, the multiple choice test was the next best thing to NO test at all.
As I started packing to head home from vacation, I flipped on the news. After a week of dancing, competition, pool time, dancing, more pool time and more dancing, it was a shock to find myself watching on the ground footage of a major firefight in Afghanistan. For more than five hours, American soldiers were pinned down. Seven medi-vac units went in with one pilot being shot mid-flight. Final toll as of airing…6 Dead, 7 Wounded.
The amount of patients I see that are unhappy with their sex lives is beyond what anyone could imagine. Many of these couples have been married for five, ten or twenty years and they report that they are awkward and dissatisfied with the type and frequency of sex they have. Our society leads us to believe that it is women, not men, who are more uncomfortable when talking about sex, but this isn’t true. Men are usually the ones who initiate counseling when they are feeling emotionally distressed about the sex in their relationship.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Sophia Dembling. “Why do women like bad boys?” is the frustrated refrain of nice guys everywhere. I don’t pretend to have the answer to that question, though I do have my own pet theory: That being “bad” requires self-confidence and that’s what women are attracted to, not the “badness” per se.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Sophia Dembling. “Why do women like bad boys?” is the frustrated refrain of nice guys everywhere. I don’t pretend to have the answer to that question, though I do have my own pet theory: That being “bad” requires self-confidence and that’s what women are attracted to, not the “badness” per se.
SECRETS TO OVERCOMING THE GROWN-UP DATING DAZE! Are you wading around in the dating pool? Are you clueless of what the new rules are and bogged down with fear? Hesitating because the dating game has changed dramatically since you were in your 20s? Sooner or later¬ if you truly desire a relationship ¬ you must jump in. Make a big splash. When you decide that you are ready to play the dating game, look at it as an adventure.