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4 Ways To Say You're Sorry

When tension arises, are you the person who's quick to apologize, wanting to sweep everything under the rug so the tension goes away? Or, are you the one who tends to hold that hurt for a while, allowing the offensive words to gain a life of their own?

How Sensitive Do You Need Your Partner to Be?

Jennifer Aniston famously accused Brad Pitt of not having a 'sensitivity chip' after their break-up. He had made a few press worthy decisions that appeared insensitive and hurtful towards their relationship and to her. How can you determine if someone's sensitivity chip is properly installed? 

Single This Holiday Season? Here's Ho Ho Hope To Find Love

Single This Holiday Season? Here's Ho Ho Hope To Find Love

For some single women, the holiday season is the absolute worst time of year. Answering awkward questions from nosey relatives. Going to parties and functions alone. Not having someone to kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve. Another year has passed and you didn't find love. I was still single at 40. I vividly remember the sadness, loneliness and disappointment. Yet, this is supposed to be the season of hope and a time when people renew their belief in miracles. A time when:

Newtown: The Grief, The Anger, and the Shame

Newtown: The Grief, The Anger, and the Shame

When news of a tragedy like the one in Newtown, CT this week hits us, most of us experience sadness, followed sooner or later by anger.  This is a normal part of Grief, a complicated emotional process that is associated with a loss.  Though most of us have not lost a loved one, we have all experienced a loss in one sense.  We have all lost a little of the sense of safety and security we need to carry around with us in order to be able to function and focus on our daily business.

Tips On How To Talk To Your Children About Sandy Hook Shooting

Tips On How To Talk To Your Children About Sandy Hook Shooting

There are no words to describe what happened on Friday at a Newtown Connecticut Elementary School. Even being an expert in my field, it was difficult to find the words to talk about this on television. As a mother of two children ages 5 and 7, I was in a sheer panic when I heard the news. As a parent I thought, "We should be able to send our children off to school not fearing for their safety." Unfortunately this is no longer the case.

Children caught in the middle of divorce, they are the victims

Children caught in the middle of divorce, they are the victims

I watched as my children left in their dad’s car this past time, my daughter not wanting to go, tears running down her face as her father told her to get in. The police were standing there because I had called them just after a CPS report was filed on how their father was being abusive towards them. My soon to be ex-husband pulled the court order papers out of his pocket and handed it over to the police officer after he had just spoken to my 9 year old little daughter and my 11 year old son. They both told the office that they did not want to be at their father’s house.

Co-parenting: Oxymoron or Opportunity?

Co-parenting: Oxymoron or Opportunity?

I’ve often found the title “co-parenting” somewhat of a humorous irony, a conundrum. Think about it. Here you have two people that just went through an emotionally hurtful process of divorce and in many instances despise each other. Then it is suggesting that they be calm enough to have a mature conversation about parenting. It’s like the democrats and republicans suddenly compromising to prevent the fiscal cliff after four years of resentment.

What The Country Can Learn From the Connecticut School Shooting

What The Country Can Learn From the Connecticut School Shooting

Our nation as a whole tends to stigmatize and minimize the reality and the extent of the impact of mental health issues on our country.  Mental health is always on the top of the list when budgets are slashed on local, state, and national levels.  Insurance companies are making excessive profits at the expense of families ability to afford services.  The latest trend with insurance companies is to increase deductibles and co-pays and charge exorbitant premiums making mental health services inaccessible to many.

4 Simple Acts That Lead To Love In Times Of Grief

4 Simple Acts That Lead To Love In Times Of Grief

The aftermath of a national tragic event like the devastation at Sandy Hook Elementary brings to life a world of painful wounds.  Based on previous experiences and knowledge people react in three ways. They either get pissed enough to take action toward change using the event to move them toward more life and love, avoid pain becoming indifferent and apathetic, or stay stuck in pain and frustration captive in their own thoughts and behaviors.