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Ever Been Dumped Right Before Valentine's Day?

Ever Been Dumped Right Before Valentine's Day?

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If cynicism, disappointment or remorse is creeping into your Valentine's Day Mindset, read on....

Does your score card for Valentine's Day have more losses than wins? Did it start back in grade school when you didn't get as many cards as the other kids? Have you ever been dumped right before the big day?  Did you know that more breakups happen in January than any other month?

Be A Selfish Lover!

Be A Selfish Lover!

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Dr. Adam Sheck shares research that selfish lovers are more satisfying to their partners!

Now Why Would I Possibly Recommend That You Be A Selfish Lover? BECAUSE the latest research seems to indicate that a selfish lover is more a more satisfying lover to their partner! Yes, it's true, a study from Kwantlen Polytechnic University in Vancouver indicates that: "... as a partner’s sexual self-focus decreased, their partner’s satisfaction decreased."

Incarceration or Treatment?

Incarceration or Treatment?

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What Really Works For Our Loved Ones?

Did you know that 70 percent of those incarcerated in state prisons and local jails have abused drugs regularly, compared with 9 percent of the general population? Would you like a workable, common-sense alternative to paying an arm and a leg to incarcerate these individuals? Here are some facts: Drug abuse is involved in more than half of all violent crimes and 70 percent of child abuse and neglect cases.

Addiction Treatment: A Holistic Approach

Addiction Treatment: A Holistic Approach

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Addiction is an attempt to cope. Learn good, appropriate coping skills and attract your dream mate.

ADDICTION TREATMENT: A HOLISTIC APPROACH by D.J. Diebold, CAC, LISAC There are a number of factors that contribute to the development of addictive behaviors, such as early childhood trauma, family history and environment. Early childhood trauma includes sexual and/or physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect or abandonment. Mental illnesses that often accompany addiction are learning disabilities, attention deficit disorder, bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety and a multitude of others. These are known as co-occurring disorders.

Thru Charlotte's Eyes by D.J. Diebold

Thru Charlotte's Eyes by D.J. Diebold

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I worked with Chicago's gang-bangers as a young white man, learning that yes, love does conquer all.

So, you want to learn about relationships and how to attract the finest mate? This book is a showcase for learning what love is and a step-by-step guide in not only how to get it, but how to keep it. The road is rocky, but it led me straight Thru Charlotte's Eyes.

Codependency: A Learned Relationship Addiction

Codependency: A Learned Relationship Addiction

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I don't deserve any better! This is the belief that codependents often foster. Learned behavior? YES

Diebold Behavioral Counseling: Co-dependency Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.

Focus on Fabulous YOU this Valentine's Day

Focus on Fabulous YOU this Valentine's Day

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Feeling sorry for yourself because you don't have Feb. 14 plans? Feel fantastic by focusing on YOU!

Where do you stand on Valentine's Day? Are you rolling your eyes at the Hallmark-esque commercials and feeling queasy at all the pink and red splashed everywhere?Chances are pretty good – thanks to all the advertising and silliness – that you’re keenly aware Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I used to call Valentine's Day “Singles Awareness Day.” Now that I'm married I couldn't care less about it.

Repitition Compulsion

Repitition Compulsion

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D.J., why do I pick the perfectly wrong person to date and get involved with, over and over again???

Repetition Compulsion Psychoanalysis is the process by which unconscious dynamics that make us unhappy with our selves and our relationships are made conscious so that healing and growth can occur. As treatment unfolds you will come to understand yourself and your relationships better and experience more freedom to make choices about how you want to live your life.

Before God's Eyes

Before God's Eyes

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Please join me as I reflect on the essence of truth. It's called humility and leads to spirituality.

Before God’s Eyes When I was just a little boy, my mother made things clear.   Just tell the truth, behave yourself, there’s nothing you should fear. The years went by, I told a lie, and learned the hardest way. Her punishment was justified; I remember to this very day.

Murder: Nature VS Nurture

Murder: Nature VS Nurture

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The Tucson murders caught us all by surprise. Join me as I break down the dynamics of a sick mind.

As a behavioral health therapist, I’ve been asked many times since Gabby Gifford’s assault to give my thoughts as to the shooter’s inner process. Please understand; I refuse to use his name. Attention-getting behaviors of this nature deserve anonymity, nothing more. What caused such reckless abandon? What was he thinking and more importantly, why did it lead to such heinous behavior?