Michael Newton describes the "soul mate" bonds as indicators of two people being part of the same soul group, who then are connected again in their current life.
November 11th 2008 was the day I died with my 37 year old husband who was accidently killed by a local block prior to a routine shoulder surgery. I was 15 weeks pregnant with our third child and left completely striped and naked of everything I once knew. Out of body, I looked down at my lifeless body holding my pregnant belly and I felt a love that I had never known before. In that instant, I made a deicision to live and to love in a way that I never knew love before.
Melanie grew up with a narcissistic mother who demanded that Melanie conform to her concept of how a child should behave. To protect herself from her mother's anger, blame and disapproval, Melanie tried to be the "perfect child". She got excellent grades in school, was obedient at home, and never did anything to cause her parents to worry about her. She would listen for hours to her mother's complaints, becoming a mother to her mother by the time she was twelve years old.
My mother was one of the sweetest, most supportive people I know, but she was uncomfortable with physical touch. Since I didn't get that love from my mom, I grew up always wanting 'more' in my relationships with men. That was when I realized that I had to openly express my feelings if I ever wanted to fix my relationships ... including the one I shared with my mom.
Today (May 6) is International No Diet Day. Frankly, I think every day should be a 'no-diet' day. The media's obsession with body image has resulted in women hating their bodies. That's why we turned to one of the most beautiful starlets in history, Marilyn Monroe, who embraced her status as a sex symbol. Maybe if she were still alive, women might perceive themselves (and each other) differently today.
Last year, a corporate professional, let me call him Tom, came to me. He looked very tired and unhappy. “Sharmin, I am working long days, late nights, still my manager wants me to do more, have more impact, show more leadership…where is the time…why can’t he see my contribution already! With changes going around all the time it is so hard to get anything done on time. I even wanted to change this job, but in this economy it is so hard to get an interview even!” – Tom gave me a quite a vivid picture of his life. I felt compassionate for him.
The progression of technology, computers and phones make communication a new species in modern relationships. What used to require actual phone calls and advanced notice now happens in the blink of an eye. And this fast pace may hurt your relationships.
May 6th is a very important day and if you didn’t get the memo, it’s International No Diet Day. This is a HUGE DAY in the world for BODY IMAGE. Body image is the way you think about and see your body and yourself. This will have a huge impact on how you act in your personal life, your social life, your work life and your family life.
Since I began pulling out my hair over 20 years ago I do not remember one day that I did not pull at least one hair on my body out. Yes there have been times in which I had no bald spots, had all of my eyelashes, etc...but I still pulled. It was not for lack of trying. There was a time that I saw therapists, tried medication, and would even try to will myself to stop. Yet I kept right on pulling. I have a disorder called trichotillomania.
Knowing how to set appropriate boundaries can make the difference in whether or not your relationship succeeds. The topic frequently comes up in my counseling office, and most people think boundaries are set by telling other people what the limits are. But boundaries are really something you must create within yourself. Having the confidence to say “no” to another is one important aspect of creating boundaries; but it begins by knowing what you do and don’t want. The Tennis Match -- Setting Boundaries and Taking Space