In this final chapter on identifying boundaries we continue to explore how our boundaries and limits stem from our views about ourselves and how they impact our lives and relationships. Recognizing your value and making choices to support that value is an integral part of relationship building and maintenance. Boundaries can show your level of respect for yourself and your body through how you act and what people you allow to have influence over you. Learning that you have value can help you to understand that the way in which you treat yourself is how others will treat you.
What Little Box Are You Living In? Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to put people in little boxes, as if that is all there is to them? These are the labels that we quickly spout off when someone asks us something like, “What is Susan like?” More a label than a description, these boxes are a one dimensional view of a person, as if that were our nature. It reminds me of a old song by Malvina Reynolds.. Little boxes on the hillside, Little boxes made of ticky tacky, Little boxes on the hillside,
I’ve accumulated several licenses after 37 years. These documents empower me as a woman and contribute to my identity. My transition into adulthood is unequivocally tied to my credentials. My paperwork is a timeline of personal and professional growth. When I received my driver’s license, I felt incredibly free. (It’s amazing what four wheels and four cylinders can do for a 16-year-old). After receiving my dental hygiene license, I felt academically accomplished. When I received my CPR certification, I felt capable in the event of a crisis.
Since the 1970s, tough love has received a great deal of attention. It's all about creating tough consequences for teens when they make irresponsible or dangerous decisions. Sadly, the term has been used to describe a parenting style that often resembles bully behavior. Parents are struggling with their parenting voice – trying to find a way to be effective parents with teens who are making poor choices. They need help practicing tough love by creating healthy boundaries and external controls for children who are unable to do this for themselves.
They say that marriage gets more difficult once you have children. It can be tougher to find the time and energy for connection and romance. It can also be a challenge when you and your spouse have a disagreement and you don't make time to be alone and resolve it . You might have uncomfortable or even traumatic memories of your own childhood listening to the adults in your house argue and fight. The yelling and anger may have sent you racing to your room where you hid underneath a blanket or turned up the volume on your stereo to drown out the raised voices.
Russell Brand and Katy Perry’s marital split has happened in the worst month of the year for marriages. Another of my survey's for IllicitEncounters.com has confirmed it - January is harder on couples than any other month. Statistics show that the 4th of January is the day most married people either think about embarking on an affair or splitting from their partner completely. Marriages are often stretched to breaking point over the festive period and thousands of unhappily married people look for a new partner or a way out.
Few things harm a relationship more than an affair. Whether the affair is emotional, a 'one night stand,' long term or a cyber-affair, the betrayal delivers a life-altering blow. Will the injury to the relationship prove fatal? There are some essential steps a couple must take for there to be any hope that the relationship can survive an affair. If done wisely, there is hope the relationship will come through the ordeal stronger than before. Here are eight steps that can help save your marriage.
Illicit Encounters, with over 635,000 members (that’s 3% of the British public’s married population), has released the results from the biggest ever survey on infidelity, commissioned by the dating site and conducted by One Poll. I authored the poll itself, in order to garner some hard facts about cheating in the UK. Findings include:
With the start of 2012, it’s time for New Year’s resolutions and new beginnings. It might also be the perfect time to set some goals for your love life and learn how to identify the kind of man you want to date. I like to call him Mr. Boyfriend Material. Like you, Mr. Boyfriend Material dates with dignity and is interested in finding a partner who is confident, independent, and has the skills necessary to communicate in MANglish.
By SMF Marcus Osborne for GalTime.com Raise your hand if you've ever experienced this. A relationship ends (usually badly) and in one quiet yet intense moment you query of yourself, "What the hell did I ever see in him?" Whoa. All those hands shooting up in the air all at once! Yeah, we've all been there. And it's not uncommon for us to berate ourselves for getting it so wrong.