Every day there is another tragic story in which someone has ended up dying or destroying their life due to drugs, food, sex or just plain despair. One week we discover Amy Winehouse is dead at 27. The week before the Olympic skier, Jeret “Speedy” Peterson had violently ended his life. In another story we read about a 700 pound woman who is on a quest to gain another300 pounds. Two years ago Tiger Woods, clearly one of the greatest golfers, went on a sex binge and has pretty much destroyed everything he valued and still hasn’t recovered.
Did you know that February 7th to 14th is National Marriage Week? According to the National Marriage Week website, National Marriage Week is a collaborative effort to encourage many diverse groups to strengthen individual marriages, reduce the divorce rate, and build a stronger marriage culture, which in turn helps curtail poverty and benefits children.
Marital Conflict by James E. Barrick, Ph.D. © If there were only two people on earth, there would still be conflicts, e.g. “Hey, stay out of my apple orchard,” or “You just ate my apple,” etc. So we (Society) invented lawyers and judges to protect our rights, rather than drawing swords. Society also invented marital therapists to resolve conflicts within marriage.
In just a few days it will be Valentines Day. Thie day to celebrate being in a relationship, brood because you’re not, or stake your claim proudly as a member of SAD (Single Awareness Day)! I have to admit that some of those SAD parties I attended on Valentines Days’ past were so much more entertaining than the $200 dinners out with the one you love...no offense to my partner!
The Psychology of Rejection James E. Barrick, Ph.D.© 2010 Being single, or unattached from an ongoing relationship, can be both a bane or a blessing. It really depends on how you look at it. For example, having to depend on yourself can be a positive experience, a negative experience, or both. Being single by choice creates a different world than becoming single by chance.
Being single on Valentine’s Day sucks. There I said it. And it isn’t just THE day that blows, it is all the days leading up to it. It is going to your local Target only to be bombarded with Valentine Day specials. It is the questioning of friends about what you will do on that night to avoid being a lonely heart. It is the Kay Jewelers commercial that seems to be on loop during the month of February. It is all just about enough to make you loath the day that is designed to love. Oh the irony.
I believe that we can have many soul mates in our life, each relationship becoming a part of our soul’s evolution. Soul mates bring us to different levels of ourselves until we reach the beloved experience within, the ultimate partnership. Soul mates can be stepping-stones to the beloved experience. I have met couples who have stayed together through the struggle and have evolved into the safe, sacred and passionate belovedness.
Singles looking for love in mobile devices now have free access to a new app to get the mission accomplished. David Steele—founder of Relationship Coaching Institute, worldwide dating authority, best-selling author of Conscious Dating, and tech-savvy entrepreneur—today debuted the Conscious Dating App for Apple and Android smart phones and tablets in service to singles worldwide, just in time for Valentine's Day.
This one requires some stretching on your part. Today's couple building exercise is to focus on your mate's happiness by asking what they'd like to do on your next day off together. Don't let them get away with turning it back on you, or trying to accommodate you. Persist in encouraging your sweetie to pick the itinerary for an entire day. Here are some examples of how to draw your lover out:
Getting your ex back is all you can think about after hearing a few deadly words; "It's over" or "This isn't working for me." Everything that you've counted on and known until now is suddenly gone. Your life plans, your hopes, your dreams and a part of yourself feels utterly lost. You are left with a broken heart and a huge, great, gaping hole in your life. You feel like your whole life has been shattered to bits and you just don't know how you will survive. Getting through the next 60 seconds after hearing those fateful words feels like an eternity and you are sure you now know what dying really feels like.