The beginning of a New Year is always a great time to reflect on your past, and try to learn something from your personal failures and successes. If you haven't already started your list of dating resolutions for 2013; it's not too late. Here are a some suggestions to help you with your dating resolutions.
Honestly, did you ever think you’d be reading an article about how to get a man? Of course you didn’t! But here you are; and I’m glad you came. Dating is easy… and hard. It’s easy because it’s natural to want a man, relationship, or significant other. However, it’s hard because women generally hold men to higher standards than they hold themselves.
Sometimes we just don't feel loving toward someone. Yet we know that there is a loving action called for in the situation. For example: • You know that your partner wants to be celebrated on her birthday, but you don’t like buying gifts or putting on parties. • You see that your partner is hurting and needing some comfort and compassion, but what you really want to do is relax in front of the TV.
"I don’t know how to network" or "Networking feels so fake" or "I'm too shy to network." Sound familiar? You know your business would improve if you networked, but you're just too uncomfortable to try. (Read the "Comfort Zone" post to get a perspective on discomfort.) The truth is, anyone can benefit from networking.
Do you find yourself saying some variation of "I could've had a V-8!" about the situations or choices you’ve made in your life? What does "I could've had a V-8!" mean, anyway? Poor decisions, or chronic lack of satisfaction?
While flipping through the channels, I landed on HBO’s series "Enlightened," and stayed to watch because I admire actress Laura Dern's work. She plays Amy Jellicoe, a corporate executive who has a dramatic flame-out, goes to a spiritual retreat center, and returns to her life as a new-and-improved Amy, she believes. While she gets on her feet, she lives with her mother, played by Diane Ladd, Laura Dern's real-life mother. We get to see how Amy got to be such a mess, through seeing how cold, mean, and superior her mother is.
Does HBO have a monopoly on series centered around characters who suffer from narcissism? No, but the network sure has its share! There was Valerie Cherish (played by Lisa Kudrow) in "The Comeback," which my husband swears was cancelled because the character was too excruciating to watch. Now Amy Jellicoe (Laura Dern) is creating chaos in "Enlightened," with rumors swirling of its cancellation because of poor ratings.
A few years ago I was waiting in a doctor's office and, having forgotten to bring the parenting book I was studying, was at the mercy of Muzak. One of the songs that came on was a Céline Dion hit written by Diane Warren, "Because You Loved Me." I listened to the words—yes, I was bored!—and was put off by what I heard as sappy co-dependency between lovers: