Transformational Fiction is my new teaching genre. You can be entertained and informed as they fly on the wall in the bedrooms of couples struggling with sexual and other issues. Please come to my site for free stories and chapters. When you find your mate, the world suddenly seems right. You are loved, your love is received. You believe that this is the absolutely best way to live.
As I have mentioned before in this series (The Eight Simple Rules to Managing Conflict), the biggest key to effectively resolving conflict is preparation. When we have time to prepare we do much better in resolving conflict than when it is thrust upon us and all we can do is react. When I mediate conflicts, I include a preparation and coaching phase with both parties individually before I ever bring them together. This added phase is critical to a successful mediation, resulting in both parties being prepared, goal-focused, and ready for resolution.
As it turns out, penguins and humans have a whole lot in common. With that in mind, here are the top 15 lessons about love and life we learned from the penguins of Antarctica:
The simplest way to think of boundaries is with this question: At what point do you stand up and let someone know you are not okay with something he/she is doing?
The Cupid's Coach Matchmaking team http://www.cupidscoach.com studied our 2012 success story couples to develop our list of the Top Five Strategies For Ensuring Success as a Matchmaking Client. Here's what these Clients did right, allowing us to enable for them this great new relationship through Cupid's Coach http://cupidscoach.com/NewRegister.aspx 1. Ask not what your date can do or be for you - focus your attention outward asking yourself, "How can you contribute to and enrich this person's life? How can I brighten this person's day?" The Clients who sailed off into loving relationships this past year were those who brought happiness to their dating experiences, rather than expecting a particular outcome in order to be happy.
A break-up can break you apart. And it can be hard to put yourself back together. Even though you might be happy to finally be away from your ex, you may still suffer from some loneliness. If you were dumped, you might feel rejected. If you both grew apart, you may feel lost. If you did the dumping, you may suffer from some guilt emotions. But now you need to ask yourself, “What do I need?”
According to a recent study and my own observations, the long-term emotional effects of bullying during childhood can last for years. Many people who walk into my office still carry the scars from childhood bullying and sometimes my work with them includes understanding and changing how they cope. The old saying "sticks and stones" really was a silly one because I think most of us would take a physical injury over a broken heart any day. So here are some tips to heal those old wounds and rid yourself of those bullying messages that you may have gotten as a child or even as an adult:
Dating online can be the beginning of a long lasting relationship. According to Match.com, one out of every five new relationships starts online. However, even though technology can speed up the time it takes to find someone, it still takes time to plant the seed and let it blossom into lasting love. When you have met a special person on the Internet, it may not be as easy to begin dating in life. They may live in another city, schedules may not work or because of personal reasons, it may be more comfortable to develop love online before going offline.
Whenever I engage in conversations with single men and women about dating and relationships, all I hear is whining and complaining directed at the behavior of the opposite sex.
OK - So I’m talking to this woman I met yesterday who is telling me about what a great marriage she has, and I ask her, “What is your biggest relationship challenge?” (You can see now why people don’t invite me over for dinner….!) So she tells me, “Well I’m afraid to bring up uncomfortable subjects.” “How long have you been married?” “30 years.”