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Winning Online Dating Profile Strategies

Winning Online Dating Profile Strategies

After careful consideration, you’ve finally decided to try online dating. Good for you!! You’ve searched through hundreds of profiles and you’ve stumbled upon a few interesting singles, but what do you do next? You want to send your online crush a message, but you’re not sure how to catch and keep his or her attention. Here are a few tips to make sure your online correspondence is helping you to meet people, not hurting you…. 1. Early on, stay away from questions that are too personal.

A Hurricane Without Rain: A Reminder from Waldo Canyon

A Hurricane Without Rain: A Reminder from Waldo Canyon

In a winter, spring and now summer of overly dry air and land, the hurricane has finally come.  Sixty-five mile an hour winds, cloudy skies and lightning, but it’s a hurricane without rain.   Sweeping through the canyons next to and above Colorado Springs, Manitou Springs, Woodland Park, the Air Force Academy almost to Douglas County, The Waldo Canyon fire has been a media star.

How to be IRRESISTIBLE to a high quality woman!

How to be IRRESISTIBLE to a high quality woman!

A high quality woman has many suitors.  Why?  Because a modern woman stands out from other women who you might be used to.  She DOES NOT whine, emasculate and manipulate you into getting her way.  Nor does she does she bitch and complain about everything.  She does not want you to be her sugar daddy, and she is NOT a drama queen or a hot mess.

Can I Borrow Your Finger for a Minute?

Can I Borrow Your Finger for a Minute?

Here’s a news flash:  stress can make you sick.   Maybe you haven’t gotten the message that stress can have a permanent effect on chronic illness.  Clouds your thinking, screws up your judgment.  Gives you the weepies and the angries.  Can take away your will to vacuum the house or cook a meal.  The effects of stress on the mood and memory components of your brain can get screwed up or even shut down.

Are You A Squid Or With a Squid?

“Squid is my word for people who seem to be missing their backbones but possess myriad sucking tentacles of emotional need.” —Martha Beck Another phrase for ‘squid’ is ‘energy vampire.’ When your intent is to get love, rather than to be loving to yourself and share your love with others, you are a ‘squid.’ When you are not in the moment-by-moment process of learning what is loving to yourself, and taking loving action for yourself, then you are in the pro

5 Good (If Not Great) Reasons For Sleeping Apart

5 Good (If Not Great) Reasons For Sleeping Apart

   1.  Your partner has a cold, the flu or anything otherwise catching   2.  Your partner snores 3.  Your partner steals the covers   4.  Your sleeping partner whacks you, strangles you, hogs the bed, or rolls you in the mattress like a hot dog 5.  Your partner’s feet (or something else) stink it up under the covers     

Falling Off My Shoes

Falling Off My Shoes

Small animals and children risk puncture wounds if they get in my way.  Men who get on the wrong side of these pumps risk injuries I won’t even descibe.  And women run  the risk of back injury, injury to the small bones in their feet, and being crippled for life.   Never mind.   Being part of the sexy pack, we wear such outrageously high shoes that we'll choose self-harm over being caught flat-footed.  

You'll Know Me By The Way I Smell

You'll Know Me By The Way I Smell

It’s my signature scent: coffee and cream.   I wear it on all my clothes, and dash it on rugs and upholstery. Drop drips on sueded shoes. Like a pre-teen soaking stationery in perfume, I’ve been known to drench papers, important or not. There are several drying on papertowels as I write. Coffee and Cream is not an unpleasant way to smell, but it’s not Chanel. It is, however, a more reasonable way to smell than eau de pineapple, which was how I reeked after a shift at the cannery (which is another story).

Keep the Stuffing in the Turkey and Out of Your Family Gathering

Keep the Stuffing in the Turkey and Out of Your Family Gathering

It’s that time again—the beginning of the holiday season. I actually had another topic I was going to address this week in my blog but I succumbed to the pressure I felt (from whom or what, I’m not sure) to write about Thanksgiving. I guess it makes sense to do so as family gatherings provoke a lot of things for many people. For some, the annual get-togethers are something to look forward to—a means to connect and spend time with family. But for many, Thanksgiving marks the beginning of a holiday season riddled with anxiety, trepidation, obligation, and conflict.