Success in life, friendship, business, family dynamics and spiritual growth has self-confidence and self-esteem at the foundation. People who have a confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness everywhere they go. As parents and caring adults, you will want to share methods and techniques to build self-confidence with the young people in your circle of influence. One of the most important part of teaching a life-skill is to improve the concept in our own lives. Here are three more tips to help build self-esteem and self-confidence in your kids.
So, maybe you're kinda-sorta seeing a guy, but you haven't quite DTR-ed (our shorthand for "defined the relationship") yet. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but things may go from casual to complicated as Valentine's Day approaches—especially if you and your guy have different expectations for how you'd like to spend the holiday or for your budding relationship. To help you make it through, we've outlined some tips to keep you sane.
Barriers keep us from opening up to love. When we are closed off, we feel disconnected and respond from fear. Barriers are what we do and how we're being that sabotage our relationships. They show up in unhealthy relationship patterns and result in unfulfilling relationships. At first glance, we think it's our partner who puts up these barriers because of the way they respond or don't respond, or because of what they do or don't do. But when we wake up and see that we keep attracting the same man over and over, we then realize that we're getting in our own way.
One of my guilty pleasures on a cold winter weekend is to settle in and hold my own private classic romance movie marathon. These gut-wrenching, heart-warming tales of regret, love lost and love found, still move me to tears no matter how many times I watch them. No matter what the era, the classics usually come full circle and the boy gets the girl in the end. Love triumphs, and everyone lives happily ever after. I like happy endings. Life is meant to be full of happy endings.
As a real life Cupid, I have been a bit depressed about all of these Hollywood couples splitting lately. Katie Perry and Russell Brand filed for divorce, Jessica Lange and Sam Sheppard separate after 30 years, Chaz Bono and his fiance call it quits, there are rumors that Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis are heading for splitsville after more than a decade and two kids together, Demi and Ashton are going through a rough divorce and Sinead O'Connor ends her 4th marriage after 18 days, beating Kim Kardashian's 72 day marriage. Most recently in the media, there are reports that Heidi Klum and Seal have separated.
When was the last time you preached to your kids about abstaining from behaviors in which you personally engage? None of us is completely innocent when it comes to the adage, “practice what you preach”, and I don’t believe our kids expect us to be. The question is how, given our own shortcomings, do we teach our kids right from wrong so that they’ll actually listen, and at the same time view us as humans worthy of respect? I’ve found the following steps effective in dealing with this dilemma:
Ten years ago, I wrote how we often make the choice of something else less important over our own and our loved ones’ happiness. This article has generated a lot of positive comments over the years apparently because it resonates with people. With another decade under my belt, I’d like to expand a little on the premise I put forward in that original article. Our Lives Are Our Choice
A divorce in the best circumstances should be discussed for a long time before it happens. Seeking counseling, trying new ways to communicate, or a trial separation should all take place before the couple agrees that their marriage is over. Fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce, so joining a support group to help deal with the emotions in the aftermath, as well as counseling and mediation, can all make a divorce less painful for both spouses and their children. Although this is the way it should happen, in reality it usually doesn’t.
With divorce rates in America topping over 50%, the sad truth is that many parents will be faced with telling their children they are getting divorced. Divorce can have negative effects on children, but based on how it is handled, divorce can also have the potential of making family situations better. Kids are smart. Because the relationship has likely already shown signs of trouble, the news may not come as a complete shock to them. Some kids may even feel a confusing sense of relief. How and when to tell children is an important factor, however. Here are some guidelines to help.
I know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some $43,000, to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her money with interest in only two short months. When she told her friend what she had done her friend pointed out that she had a small child to feed, and reminded her she had just lost her job—and, incidentally, two other boyfriends just like this one.