Here’s a news flash: stress can make you sick. Maybe you haven’t gotten the message that stress can have a permanent effect on chronic illness. Clouds your thinking, screws up your judgment. Gives you the weepies and the angries. Can take away your will to vacuum the house or cook a meal. The effects of stress on the mood and memory components of your brain can get screwed up or even shut down.
“Squid is my word for people who seem to be missing their backbones but possess myriad sucking tentacles of emotional need.” —Martha Beck Another phrase for ‘squid’ is ‘energy vampire.’ When your intent is to get love, rather than to be loving to yourself and share your love with others, you are a ‘squid.’ When you are not in the moment-by-moment process of learning what is loving to yourself, and taking loving action for yourself, then you are in the pro
1. Your partner has a cold, the flu or anything otherwise catching 2. Your partner snores 3. Your partner steals the covers 4. Your sleeping partner whacks you, strangles you, hogs the bed, or rolls you in the mattress like a hot dog 5. Your partner’s feet (or something else) stink it up under the covers
Small animals and children risk puncture wounds if they get in my way. Men who get on the wrong side of these pumps risk injuries I won’t even descibe. And women run the risk of back injury, injury to the small bones in their feet, and being crippled for life. Never mind. Being part of the sexy pack, we wear such outrageously high shoes that we'll choose self-harm over being caught flat-footed.
It’s my signature scent: coffee and cream. I wear it on all my clothes, and dash it on rugs and upholstery. Drop drips on sueded shoes. Like a pre-teen soaking stationery in perfume, I’ve been known to drench papers, important or not. There are several drying on papertowels as I write. Coffee and Cream is not an unpleasant way to smell, but it’s not Chanel. It is, however, a more reasonable way to smell than eau de pineapple, which was how I reeked after a shift at the cannery (which is another story).
It’s that time again—the beginning of the holiday season. I actually had another topic I was going to address this week in my blog but I succumbed to the pressure I felt (from whom or what, I’m not sure) to write about Thanksgiving. I guess it makes sense to do so as family gatherings provoke a lot of things for many people. For some, the annual get-togethers are something to look forward to—a means to connect and spend time with family. But for many, Thanksgiving marks the beginning of a holiday season riddled with anxiety, trepidation, obligation, and conflict.
As part of my research as a dating expert, I periodically get online and look through people’s online dating profiles. As you know, when dating online, your profile becomes the one and only link connecting you with interesting men. If you have a well-written profile that represents you, you not only attract more men, but you greatly increase the odds of attracting YOUR kind of men.
Now that the elections are behind us and we are looking forward to the New Year, we patiently wait with anticipation on how Congress will conduct itself in the coming term. As you know, relations between the parties have been at its all-time low. Bickering, threats of filibusters and outright contention have permeated the chambers.
Drum roll, please! Here’s my TOP TEN LIST OF BEST-DOWN-IN-THE-DUMPS-ABOUT-LOVE songs. 1. I’m So Lonesome I Could Cry - Hank Williams 2. Love Hurts – Roy Orbison 3. She’s Out of My Life – Michael Jackson 4. In My Life – The Beatles 5. Unbreak My Heart – Toni Braxton 6. Even Now – Barry Manilow
If you have suffered a tragedy this year—a loss of employment, loss of your home, a divorce or even a death—you may not feel as if there is much to celebrate or to give thanks for this holiday season. However, I respectfully disagree! This is exactly the time to give thanks.