Whether you’re out there looking for a compatible mate, are dating someone new, or have been seeing your current partner for awhile, try these approaches to enliven and enrich the connection between you.. Tip #1: Personalize your Expressions of Attraction
Last week, I wrote an article entitled, “Are You Committing These 12 Fatal Relationship Errors?” [EXPERT]. As a counselor educator, I am frequently telling other counselors that “stop doing” plans never work. We can tell people to stop doing something but without developing an alternative behavior, it will be difficult to make it work. People need to know what they are supposed to do instead when they find themselves wanting to engage in the forbidden behavior.
When problems arise, challenges become harder, or even our monthly visitor sets off an array of emotional unbalance, we as woman are all guilty of complaining. We were always taught that communication is key and that honesty was the best policy. For the most part that is correct but when it comes to relationships with men, they want to hear us, but they honestly do not want to hear us complain.
Instead of being obsessed with how much love and attention you are going to get from others this Valentine’s Day, take a radical act of self-love and make a pre-emptive love strike – make a vow on February 13th (the international day of self-love, Madly in Love with ME™ Day) to become your own best friend this year. Then, no matter what does or doesn’t happen this February 14th you’ll always make sure that your love life is a happy one!
Being in a relationship involves being committed to another person. It takes two people to give 100 percent of themselves to remain an alliance. In the beginning, if you are on a social media site like Facebook, it is only natural to want to post "In a Relationship" as your relationship status to show all of your 500 friends how happy you both are. But what happens when the relationship ends? What do you do then?
It's official. It's over. Actually it's been over for quite some time now. Then why are you still stuck with your ex? You may think you're doing your best to move on, but somehow you just can't shimmy away from him/her. Truth be told even if you aren't in physical contact you may be fooling yourself with lots of sneaky subtle behaviors that keep you connected and prevent you from meeting someone new!
Unhappy with your relationships? Here's the likely culprit, and how to fix it... you need to strengthen your personal boundaries. Strong personal boundaries give you the freedom to say yes to what you want and no to what you don’t want, despite the risk of displeasing others. What a concept, huh? (The irony is the more you try to please others, the less you succeed. Nobody likes a people pleaser.) You’ll automatically upgrade your relationships and improve your life overall.
Feel stuck? Overwhelmed? Read on. One of the most surprising things I’ve discovered as a coach is the power of doing less. A little goes a long way. Nothing will build your confidence and momentum like setting small, achievable goals that you will actually accomplish! Let the phrase “under-promise and over-deliver” be your guide. In other words, commit to less for the sake of accomplishing more.
Breaking up is harder to do when we are not sure if or when. But those, as it turns out, are not really the right questions. The question isn't if or when, the question is how does one know, how do we become sure? The surest way to avoid surety: We avoid being sure when we do the work our partners are supposed to be doing, hoping they'll do it. We avoid being sure when we pretend things are true in the relationship that aren't really true. In short, we avoid being sure, when we bargain. IF I do this, THEN he'
I meet many women who have no issue with setting up and adhering to boundaries in other areas of their life – yet compromise all over the place once in a relationship with a man. So today, we’re going to focus on Boundaries - lesson # 3 in this 5 part series celebrating Valentine’s week. Why do we need boundaries? For one reason, they act like a “fence” protecting our property. When you have healthy boundaries set up that you stick to, it actually gives you more freedom to make better choices in your romantic life.