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Trust ... It's More Than You Think

Trust ... It's More Than You Think

The song, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, was made famous by Aretha Franklin, and she sure had it right as far as it being a really important aspect in relationships.  But as you may have guessed, respect is only one of the main ingredients to building a solid foundation. As a relationship expert, I’d like to discuss another very important foundational aspect to any solid relationship: trust.  The online dictionary defines it as “a firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.”  I have no

The #1 Key to Attracting a Healthy Relationship

The #1 Key to Attracting a Healthy Relationship

The #1 Key to Attracting an Amazing Relationship     There are a myriad of ways to get ourselves out there to attract a good mate into our lives. The 21st Century has afforded almost every way possible to mingle with the opposite sex. If you are socially active, you can make sure that you are out and about every chance you get and can strategize which locations and functions best match the values of the person you are seeking.

Latex Allergy? Non-Latex Condom News That May Affect You

Latex Allergy? Non-Latex Condom News That May Affect You

UPDATE (March 19, 2014): At the end of this article, we have included the latest update on this issue. At best, latex allergies are unpleasant. At worst, they're life-threatening. When you have a sensitivity to latex, you may experience extremely unpleasant symptoms when exposed to latex condoms. These may include a burning sensation on any area of exposed skin, the sudden appearance of rash or hives, itching, blisters, -- you may even think you have a yeast infection.

5 Tips From Divorced Women On Avoiding A Bad Marriage [EXPERT]
Do you have concerns about your marriage?

5 Tips From Divorced Women On Avoiding A Bad Marriage

Buried in "How readers scored first presidential debate," today's letters to the editor section of the Denver Post, is one with a slightly different twist. Kelsey Kenfield noted: "What truly frightened me to the core was Mick Romney's unabashed disregard, arrogance and lack of respect shown for the moderator, Jim Lehrer, an equally learned and accomplished person, a man doing nothing to Romney but offering him a forum to express himself. [… His] attitude towards someone he perceived as standing in his way is … more a measure of the man than anything else that happened Wednesday night. This behavior should not be ignored."

7 Sure-Fire Ways to Prevent an Affair

7 Sure-Fire Ways to Prevent an Affair

As a marriage and family counselor I am always dealing with issues of sexuality, infidelity, and betrayal as well as intimacy, honesty, courage, and integrity.  A rash of recent public scandals – from Tiger Woods to David Letterman, from Sen. John Ensign to Gov. Mark Sanford, to the suspected shenanigans of Jon Gosselin of reality TV's Jon and Kate – might make it seem that sexual infidelity is sweeping the land.  Many of my clients want to know how to prevent an affair.  Here’s what I tell them. 

It happens to the best of us...

It happens to the best of us...

I love sharing my stories with you because they are real life examples of what most of us go through in some way or another. This week, I am telling you about a woman I spoke with that went through an emotionally abusive relationship AND is a strong, powerful woman. She has given me permission to share this with you, in hopes that it is a starting point for you to come to the same realization that she did.

PAIRS Training for Couples Cary NC

PAIRS Training for Couples Cary NC

PAIRS Essentials for Couples Couples who are married or not are invited to attend this class.  In this class you will learn the tools you can use for the following problems or feelings: Feeling Disconnected Sense of Growing Distance Attempting to Resolve Problems under Stress Wanting to Feel Care About and Loved Upsetting Reaction to Partner's Behavior Feeling Emotionally Overwhelmed To Ask for a Behavior Change from Your Partner

When Texting Becomes Sexting

When Texting Becomes Sexting

So you’re past the first phases of a relationship. You’ve met the man, or woman, you’re attracted, they like you, you like them, you’ve had some banter back and forth, a few dates, maybe some kissing and touching.  You feel ready to take the relationship to the next level.  Or maybe you’re in a committed relationship and you’d love to spice things up a little.  There is a handy little tool, right in the palm of your hand, which can help you achieve that.  And no I’m not talking about th

The #1 Way To Improve Your Relationship [EXPERT]
Hurtful words in a relationship are like a drop of red dye in a glass of water.

The #1 Way To Improve Your Relationship

The path out of this relational trap is to first take on an approach of zero negativity: for both parties to commit absolutely to refraining from put-downs, negative comments and behaviors. It's imperative that both members of a couple make a strict commitment to this approach. Not just temporarily, but always.